There’s something ironic about having “feedback” on a workshop that’s all about food and eating and weight, isn’t there?
But nothing ironic about what the ladies on the “What’s Weighing You Down?” workshop at Claridge House shared (yes, sadly no men this time round). Stories emerged of less-than-happy childhoods with harsh parents and punishments, lack of love and nurturing, and a sense that they were “in the way” or “not good enough” or even “not wanted”.
Digressing slightly, that reminds me of an incident when I was in a local supermarket a few weeks ago. A young boy – maybe 6 or 7 – was trying to find a particular newspaper or magazine. The display was not good, and inevitably, some other papers slid around, out of place. Instead of just putting them back, this poor young boy started telling himself off: “you never do things right, you. You’re always breaking things. Why don’t you take more care?”
My heart went out to him. If that is what has been drummed into him already – as it obviously had been – what sort of life is he being set up for, bless him?
Back to weightier issues …. we talked about the many and varied reasons why we hold onto excess weight – anything from childhood abuse (yes, I would call verbal tongue lashings and lack of emotional nurturing “abuse” as much as physical beatings) to relationship problems, even silent mourning for the loss of an interrupted pregnancy or the loss of a new-born baby.
These reasons can often be traced back to past lives, and I shared examples of clients I have worked with over the years who were amazed when they discovered they had had a past life at all, let alone one in which they starved to death or were always having to beg for food.
We also talked about spirit passengers, literally little lost souls who can sometimes “hitch a ride”. I explained what that was all about – nothing spooky or witchy, just totally natural – and gave a very recent example of a young lady I worked with. I found a spirit passenger with her and removed it. The session was on a Saturday and early the following week she sent me a text message to say she had lost her craving for cakes and biscuits and chocolate! You can hear her telling her story on a recorded testimonial here on the site.
Then we talked about the brain in the gut. Officially called the Enteric Nervous System, I call it Eric for short – although it’s anything but short, it’s about nine metres long, actually! Eric exerts enormous influence on our overall health and wellbeing. Once the links are made, the dots are joined, it’s easy to see why we have a gut reaction, or butterflies in our stomach, or feel gutted . . . We learned about Ghrelin the Gremlin that makes you feel hungry and PYY the “I’m full” messenger.
And then we talked about bariatric surgery, complete with diagrams showing gastric by-pass and a gastric band – good job we had had our coffee break by then! Did you know the official rate of people dying after a surgical gastric band operation is 1 in 200, and for a gastric by-pass it’s 1 in 100? Not to mention the huge amount of excess flabby skin that accumulates after a by-pass operation because the weight loss is so fast – that often entails another serious operation too.
And you see – however successful these bariatric operations seem to be – if the emotional root causes have not been tackled, then the patient is still going to be suffering . . .
I honestly believe that the process I follow – discover the root causes, resolve the issues and (if necessary) fit a hypnotic gastric band – is by far the best, and my clients seem more than happy to agree!