Weight Loss Surgery – and Hypnotic Gastric Banding

red apple, inches tape measureAnother day, another article in the press about bariatric surgery – the umbrella term for weight loss surgery. This prompted me to refer to the UK official NHS website for their latest guidelines on weight loss surgery: it made interesting reading.

There is a lot of information about what the various surgical procedures are – gastric bypass, gastric band, sleeve gastrectomy – risks, results, “life after weight loss surgery” and so on.

An NHS Psychological Assessment will determine whether:
you have any mental health conditions or emotional problems that could prevent you sticking to your lifestyle plan after surgery
you’ve developed unhealthy patterns of eating, such as binge eating, that could cause problems after surgery
you have realistic expectations of what life will be like after surgery.

Nowhere, as far as I could see from the NHS website, does it offer any advice or suggestions about addressing any of these issues prior to surgery.

Under the heading “Psychosocial effects of (weight loss) surgery” , it states:
“It’s also common for a person to experience a worsening of mood when their weight stabilises, typically two years after surgery. This is often because many people realise that problems that existed before surgery, such as money worries or difficulties at work, are still there.”

I am not denying that bariatric surgery can, and has, helped a lot of people. But my point is that, without addressing the underlying emotional reasons / issues that cause someone to hold onto that excess weight in the first place, it is like putting a sticking plaster over a festering wound and expecting to wound to heal all by itself: it’s not going to happen.

I have worked with lots of clients who have been holding onto varying amounts of excess weight. One of the these was a white feet on scaleslovely lady who weighed around 23 stone when she came to see me. She had been through the full NHS programme leading up to bariatric surgery, and had done all that was asked of her. When the time came, she was refused surgery because she was still too obese. This is the classic Catch 22, isn’t it – someone needs surgery because they are obese, and yet because they are obese, they can’t have surgery due to the risk to their heart with the anaesthetic and stress to the system. I worked with this lady for a few months, as we peeled the layers off the emotional onion, getting closer and closer to the real person at the core. Many issues were dealt with along the way. She laughed, she cried, she uncovered “stuff” that had been locked away for years and years. There is no magic wand here; she did not lose 10 stone in a couple of months. But her whole persona changed. She re-discovered who she really was, and she liked that person very much. With her new-found confidence, she re-joined her slimming club and was frequently Slimmer of the Week and Slimmer of the Month. She changed her eating habits and the food she cooked for her family – and they all enjoyed the new way of eating! Did she have a hypnotic gastric band fitted? No, because she no longer felt the need for one.

People hold on to excess weight for many reasons: abuse in childhood or bullying at school; a broken relationship or loss of a loved one; even termination of a pregnancy or a baby lost at childbirth. The weight is used as protection or comfort or both. There is a particular logic I have repeatedly come across in women that runs as follows: when I was slim, I was attractive, and I attracted a man. That man hurt me. I don’t want to be hurt any more, so I will make myself less attractive, then I won’t attract another man.

I use a blend of clinical hypnotherapy, past life regression, spirit release and soul retrieval work to get to the real root causes of holding on to excess weight. Many of the clients who come to see me have only ever come across these concepts on my website or when they have talked to me. They frequently say, “Jude, this is all a bit out there.” It probably is to them, but to me it is totally normal, and the results speak for themselves. We find past lives where they have starved to death, and have passed with the thought, “I will never go hungry again.” We find spirit “passengers” with a sweet tooth – once they have been moved on, the obsession for cakes and biscuits vanishes. We uncover the trail of trauma and events that have caused fragments of the soul to split off and be stuck in time: we find these fragments, we leave behind all of the negative emotions and bring them home. We talk with the excess weight and find out how it’s feeling: angry? fed up? bored? We find out what we need to do to help it shift. We thank it for doing its job so well, and we give it permission to leave. Does that all sound whacky to you? Probably. But it works.

And then – only then, when the festering wounds have been completely cleared out, cleansed and healed – will I talk with the client about a hypnotic gastric band. If he or she still wants one, that’s fine, it can be done. Without invasive surgery, without anaesthetic, and without any if the risks listed on the NHS website such as internal bleeding, a blood clot inside the leg (Deep vein thrombosis) or a blood clot or other blockage in the lungs (pulmonary embolism).

If you are holding on to excess weight and if you feel the time has come to tackle it, give me a call on 07597 020 512 or email me on:
judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk .
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre, Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and from The Practice Rooms in Hove, East Sussex, and I would be happy to talk through any aspects of weight loss: totally free and totally confidential.

I’m back at the College of Psychic Studies in September

I led a full-day workshop on that all-important period of Life between Lives at the prestigious College of Psychic Studies in London earlier this year, and it was a sell-out. Seems it was very popular, as I have been asked to repeat the workshop in September!
Called “Sojourn of the Soul”, we shall look at all aspects of the journey of the soul from death to rebirth, and the day will end with a group regression, so that everyone has the opportunity to experience that very special process.

I set a limit of 14 people for this type of workshop so that it stays small and intimate, so if you are interested in coming along, please do book early, direct with the College of Psychic Studies. Here is the link to my entry in the Autumn Programme, and to the Autumn Programme as a whole.

https://www.collegeofpsychicstudies.co.uk/events/view/id/600/the-sojourn-of-the-soul-the-importance-of-that-time-in-between-lives

Below is also the link to the online version of the programme:
https://issuu.com/collegeofpsychicstudies/docs/aut_2016/1

Sojourn of the Soul workshop, College of Psychic Studies, Sunday 6th March

I shall be leading a workshop in the beautiful surroundings of the College of Psychic Studies in London on Sunday 6th March on “The Sojourn of the Soul – the importance of that time in between lives”.

In human terms, birth is the beginning and death is the end. For the soul there is no end, merely a passing from one state of being to another as it sheds the heavy overcoat of a physical body and returns to its true light state of pure energy.

During this workshop we will explore the soul’s sojourn, from when it passes from one human body until it joins another in its next reincarnation. You will have the opportunity of experiencing this “In-Between Life” for yourself in the group regression at the end of the workshop, reminding you of your life’s purpose in this incarnation.

Apart from experiencing that pure, unconditional love – which is beautifully emotional – you will come away with a much clearer understanding of who you are and why you are here.

The link below should take you to full details of the event: numbers are limited, so if you are interested, please don’t wait too long to book!

Sojourn of the Soul

 

 

 

 

Past Lives Workshop was just great!

It was a pleasure for me to spend the day with such a great bunch of people last Sunday, 13th September, for a workshop on Past Lives, Life between Lives and Soul Groups at Haywards Heath Town Hall. There were ten of us – a really nice number, I don’t work with more than 12 for these workshops. There were questions, answers – and then more questions … discussions, sharing of stories and opinions …. We meandered “off piste” into life on other planets, Karma .v. free will, holographic theory and the vibrational changes affecting the planet as a whole and each of us as individuals – nothing if not all-encompassing!

sunset with silhouette manAfter lunch there was a group regression and – apart from the one inevitable gentle snorer (there’s always one!) – everyone experienced a past life. Some were right there in the thick of it, smelling a dank prison cell or heather on the moors; feeling the texture of rough walls and soft fur; while others said they were “observers”, watching the story unfold in front of them. We found a colourful collection of personalities including a dashing young Scottish clan leader and a Maori warrior; a young Victorian lady and a man who fiddled the financial books and ended up on the streets as a result – who needs reality TV!

Seems everyone there enjoyed the day as much as I did, so my thanks to everyone who came along. And if you missed it, and would like to come along to a similar workshop in the future – let me know, I’ll put you on the list!

Full House for Past Lives Talk at Chequer Mead

Well, OK, it was only a small room, but even so, I was delighted to see some brand new faces mingling with regular Indigos for my talk at Chequer Mead last week.

It was just two hours, so there was only time to skim across the surface of this vast, fascinating topic that is a passion of mine.

The good news is that I shall be arranging a full-day workshop, similar to the one I ran at the College of Psychic Studies last October, so that we can go into more detail about Past Lives, Life between Lives and Soul Groups. There will lots of case studies, including some recorded extracts, time for questions and discussions – and time too for a group regression, so everyone has the opportunity to experience a past life for themselves.

If you would like to put your name down for this workshop, please let me know. I am aiming at either June or September, depending on venue availability – so let me know which works best for you.

Past Lives Workshop at the College of Psychic Studies – it was great!

college of psychic studiesOn Sunday 19th October I led a workshop on Past Lives, In-between Lives and Soul Groups at the College of Psychic Studies in London, and what a lovely bunch of ladies turned up to share the day! One had flown in from Zurich especially for the occasion and another from Copenhagen – I was flattered!

The time flew! We started by talking about the concept of reincarnation and its acceptance or otherwise across cultures and through history. Onto some interesting case studies, and how past lives for healing can be very powerful. Then onto the so-called Bardo states, the life between lives, where the soul has some “R&R”, re-connects with its soul group and goes through a loving debrief before, at some stage, deciding on the parameters for its next “posting” or incarnation. And we talked about soul groups, groups of souls who travel through lifetimes together – although it’s not all life and light!

 

After a quick lunch we re-assembled and everyone settled down for a groupsunset with silhouette man regression. There was just one who fell fast asleep and snored throughout – there’s always one! Everyone else went on extraordinary individual journeys and brought back amazing tales of past lives that gave them valuable insights into situations and challenges they are facing in this lifetime.

All in all, a very full day and one that everyone seemed to enjoy (even the snorer in the corner!).

Note to self – must do another one of those soon!

RESISTANCE

The first part of a session with a new client is all about talking. I ask some questions which open up areas of discussion about the client’s past, what has brought him or her to me, what sort of outcome they are looking for and so on. It also helps the client to relax and unwind – I appreciate it can take a lot of courage to come to see a therapist, and having time to look around the therapy room, take in the surroundings, feel comfortable is all part of the familiarisation process.

Then I explain how I work. Sometimes the client will have done their own research, going through my website, asking more questions, commenting on particular points. In either case, I talk them all through it again – it helps them to get used to my voice, and it helps their unconscious to understand what will be happening.

I allow time to talk about concepts such as past lives and spirit passengers – very often, it is the first time that clients have come up against such things, and while they are perfectly normal to me, I understand that they can be very strange to other people.

When I put people into a deep state of relaxation, I don’t use any “show-biz” type techniques or fancy footwork. For me the most important thing is that the client is comfortable and confident, ready to relax and let go.

Occasionally the client goes into a deep sleep instead of a deep state of relaxation. On the odd occasion when that happens, I will go through the basics of the first session anyway, as it serves as a briefing for the unconscious, so the whole process is more familiar to the client’s unconscious next time round. I then let them sleep for ten minutes or so – they usually need it – and bring them round again.

Falling asleep is a form of Resistance, and is part of the client’s defence mechanism. It’s as if I had asked them to jump into the deep end of a swimming pool they had never seen before. Some are happy to do just that, and will swim happily straight away. Others want to walk around the pool first, and paddle in the shallow end before going out of their depth. It is caution rather than failure, and invariably things go “swimmingly” next time round. It’s because the unconscious has received the message even though the client has been sleeping, recognises the process and feels comfortable enough to “let go” and go with the flow.

It’s usually strong-minded people who experience this, those who are used to being in control. The idea of “letting go” is anathema, and for them not being able to see what’s going on is even more scary than the idea of visiting a past life! But once the conscious and unconscious parts of the brain are comfortable with the process, all is well – and generally speaking, those with strong minds make great subjects once they’ve got over that resistance hurdle!

If you feel that you or someone you know might benefit from my blend of hypnotherapy, past life regression and soul retrieval work, get in touch.
Call me on 07597 020 512 or email me on:  judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk . I’m always happy to have a chat, totally free and totally confidential.

I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and from The Practice Rooms in Hove, East Sussex.

WEIGHT WORKSHOP FEEDBACK

There’s something ironic about having “feedback” on a workshop that’s all about food and eating and weight, isn’t there?

But nothing ironic about what the ladies on the “What’s Weighing You Down?” workshop at Claridge House shared (yes, sadly no men this time round). Stories emerged of less-than-happy childhoods with harsh parents and punishments, lack of love and nurturing, and a sense that they were “in the way” or “not good enough” or even “not wanted”.

Digressing slightly, that reminds me of an incident when I was in a local supermarket a few weeks ago. A young boy – maybe 6 or 7 – was trying to find a particular newspaper or magazine. The display was not good, and inevitably, some other papers slid around, out of place. Instead of just putting them back, this poor young boy started telling himself off:  “you never do things right, you. You’re always breaking things. Why don’t you take more care?”
My heart went out to him. If that is what has been drummed into him already – as it obviously had been – what sort of life is he being set up for, bless him?

Back to weightier issues …. we talked about the many and varied reasons why we hold onto excess weight – anything from childhood abuse (yes, I would call verbal tongue lashings and lack of emotional nurturing “abuse” as much as physical beatings) to relationship problems, even silent mourning for the loss of an interrupted pregnancy or the loss of a new-born baby.

These reasons can often be traced back to past lives, and I shared examples of clients I have worked with over the years who were amazed when they discovered they had had a past life at all, let alone one in which they starved to death or were always having to beg for food.

We also talked about spirit passengers, literally little lost souls who can sometimes “hitch a ride”. I explained what that was all about – nothing spooky or witchy, just totally natural – and gave a very recent example of a young lady I worked with. I found a spirit passenger with her and removed it. The session was on a Saturday and early the following week she sent me a text message to say she had lost her craving for cakes and biscuits and chocolate! You can hear her telling her story on a recorded testimonial here on the site.

Then we talked about the brain in the gut. Officially called the Enteric Nervous System, I call it Eric for short – although it’s anything but short, it’s about nine metres long, actually! Eric exerts enormous influence on our overall health and wellbeing. Once the links are made, the dots are joined, it’s easy to see why we have a gut reaction, or butterflies in our stomach, or feel gutted . . .  We learned about Ghrelin the Gremlin that makes you feel hungry and PYY the “I’m full” messenger.

And then we talked about bariatric surgery, complete with diagrams showing gastric by-pass and a gastric band – good job we had had our coffee break by then! Did you know the official rate of people dying after a surgical gastric band operation is 1 in 200, and for a gastric by-pass it’s 1 in 100? Not to mention the huge amount of excess flabby skin that accumulates after a by-pass operation because the weight loss is so fast – that often entails another serious operation too.

And you see – however successful these bariatric operations seem to be – if the emotional root causes have not been tackled, then the patient is still going to be suffering . . .

I honestly believe that the process I follow – discover the root causes, resolve the issues and (if necessary) fit a hypnotic gastric band – is by far the best, and my clients seem more than happy to agree!