If you can’t go outside – go inside!

What does isolation mean to you? Do you see it as a punishment – or an opportunity? Are you one of those saying, “I’m bored!” or one of those saying, “I’ve never been so busy!”

Normally our days are full – work, family, social life, (anti) social media – distractions abound, so we don’t have time to just sit and “be”.
We are, after all, human BEings and not human DOings – but we seem to have forgotten that along the way!

Those who stuck at home may be starting to feel very uncomfortable with their own company, especially if they are used to being in a large office, or going out with friends.

This is a good opportunity to take time to get to know the real you, the one you perhaps avoided in the past. A bit like looking in the mirror, but looking much more deeply, into your soul, and finding that inner you that would love to shine like a beacon but that is probably a tad dimmed down through neglect.

How do you do that, and what will you find? You can do it in a number of ways, but they all involve being in that lovely state of relaxation that asks your conscious mind to get out of the way and allows your unconscious mind to roam free. For some people it could be a walk in the countryside or on a beach – social distancing rules permitting, of course. For others it may be sitting quietly and comfortably at home, with the mobile phone turned off – yes, really – and with some relaxing music to help the mind to settle.

Let your mind go as quiet and blank as you can. If thoughts float in, well, let them float right on out again, as if they are on clouds scudding across the sky. It will take a bit of practice, but once your mind gets the idea, it will be very happy to slow the pace and calm down.

Just sit and see what comes to you. It might be an emotion – which one? Anger? Frustration? Loneliness? Sit with it. Give it a colour, a shape, see where it comes from, what it wants to say to you. Does that sound silly? Probably, but try it anyway. You will be starting the process of “Peeling the emotional onion” and yes, it may well make you cry, be prepared for that. These are emotions that you have stuffed away for far too long, and that need to be released. Let them go, you don’t need them any more.

You may come up with some aspects of you that are not so nice, the ones you usually keep tucked away from other people. These are what we call “shadows” and we all have them. You can recognise them when you are with other people (remember that?) – if someone does or says something that irritates you, or makes you embarrassed – ask yourself why? Is there something in you that mirrors that?

This peeling of the emotional onion is an ongoing work in progress, it is never done, but with each layer that comes off, you will feel so much lighter. Just like those who are taking time to sort out a physical space and throw away the rubbish, so taking time to sort out your emotional space and getting rid of the stuff you no longer need is even healthier for you!

If you would like to have a chat about this, or any other aspect of your wellbeing at this time, give me a call: it can often help to talk with an experienced someone who does not have an agenda, who listens to what you have to say without judgment and who can perhaps offer a few suggestions if appropriate. I’m on 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512.

Introducing Eric, the brain in your gut

We all know that we have a brain in our heads – but did you know that we have a second brain? And that it’s located in our gut? It’s official name is the Enteric Nervous System (ENS) – but I think Eric is easier to remember, don’t you?

Eric the ENS has at least 100 million neurons, which is about the same as a cat’s brain – and you know how smart cats can be! This brain is not a mass, as the brain in our head: rather it is a sort of mesh, or network, located under the mucosal lining and between the muscular layers of the esophagus, the stomach and the small and large intestines, so it is several metres long.

Eric the ENS is connected to the brain in our head by the Vagus Nerve, that runs from the abdomen to the brain. But if the Vagus Nerve is cut, Eric the ENS continues to function quite happily, controlling and co-ordinating the process of digestion and all that goes with it. In fact, some 90% of all the signals that pass along that Vagus Nerve are messages from Eric to the brain, and not from the brain to Eric – so it could be said that, actually, Eric’s in charge!

Just think for a moment of all the common expressions we use – “I’m gutted”; “it’s a gut reaction” “I can’t stomach it any more”; “I’ve got butterflies in my stomach” – to mention a few. These are all linked to responses from Eric the ENS to our moods and emotions: in fact it is often Eric the ENS who tells the head brain how we are feeling!

What does Eric the ENS do? Quite a lot, actually –

  • it controls the mechanical blending of food in the stomach, and ensures that the pH balance is right at various sections of the system. When we digest food it goes through a process where it is first broken down by an alkaline mix and then by a special acid mix: it is important to keep the two separate and both working as they should.
  • it identifies bad bacteria that may have got into the system via the digestive system (eg in something you have eaten). If the sensors on the gut wall detect something that shouldn’t be there, substances such as histamine are released. This alerts Eric to one of several responses – diarrhea perhaps, or a message up the Vagus Nerve to the head brain, who will trigger vomiting: both designed to get the bad stuff out of the system.
  • it produces as much dopamine (the pleasure and reward molecule) as the head brain.
  • it produces lots of serotonin too. Serotonin is the “feel good” molecule that helps counter depression and regulates sleep. Serotonin that is produced in the ENS passes into the blood stream and helps to repair damaged cells and supports processes such as bone density.

Considerable research is being done on the links between Eric the ENS and not only moods and emotions but also physical conditions. For instance, stress triggers the gut to produce more ghrelin, a hormone that reduces anxiety levels – but it also stimulates feelings of hunger. Hence comfort eating at times of worry and stress – blame it on Ghrelin the Gremlin! And when we have had enough, then PYY comes to the rescue – that’s the chemical that sends the message to the head brain that says, “I’m full.” But that takes the slow route – it can take up to 20 minutes for the brain to get that “I’m full” message, which is why we should eat slowly. Not only does it give Eric and his team time to digest the food in a more efficient way, but it allows time for the PYY to send the full message at the appropriate time, rather than when Eric has been bombarded with a pile of food that has to be sorted through, analysed and sent to the relevant areas for processing!

So next time you have butterflies in your stomach, or you have a gut reaction to something – think of Eric!

If you would like to know more about Eric – or any other aspect of my blend of hypnotherapy, past life regression and soul retrieval work – get in touch.
Call me on 07597 020 512 or email me on:  judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk . I’m always happy to have a chat, totally free and totally confidential.

I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex.

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Case study: why would her children being sick cause such a reaction?

I just love past life regression work. The more I study and research and work with this fascinating subject, the more I realise that our past lives hold the key to so many areas of our current lives.

I recently worked with a lady who has two young children. She is happily married, and a loving, caring mother. Her issue was her “over-the-top” reaction when one of her children was physically sick. This went beyond natural concern into what she described as a phobia.

In a deep state of relaxation she went back to a life where she was a girl of about 10 or 11, she didn’t really know, almost the eldest of a large number of brothers and sisters living in squalor in one dark, dingy room in what seemed to be a large town. There were certainly “lots of other buildings” around. This little girl didn’t know where her parents were, her main concern every day was begging or stealing enough food to feed her siblings.

Having established the basic scenario – she had no idea where she was, what year it was, who was on the throne (what did any of that have to do with the life of a struggling peasant girl?), I moved her on to the time when the incident happened that had to do with sickness.

The little girl moved on only a year or so, and was totally distraught. All her siblings were really ill – they had fever, they were vomiting, they were dying. It seemed it wasn’t just her family – everyone was ill, everyone was dying. There were no doctors, they had all gone. The little girl felt helpless, she didn’t know what to do, she couldn’t stop her brothers and sisters dying in this pathetic one room, with the floor no doubt awash with vomit as well as dirt and despair.

The little girl was sobbing, she was having problems breathing, she was desperately upset. We had clearly found the source of the trauma, so I moved her on a few more years. She was the only one of the children to survive, and we caught up with her living in a cottage in the country with a family “but not my family”. She married and had three daughters, all of whom were fit and healthy, and she was a loving, caring mother.

I moved her on to the time of her death, and helped her pass over with lots of love, compassion and reassurance that there was nothing she could have done to help her siblings, she did all she could, it wasn’t her fault and so on. She found release from the trauma she had carried in that lifetime, and passed with a beautiful smile on her face.

Then I worked on the “now” person, and released the negative strands that she had brought forward from that lifetime, reinforcing the positive, loving aspects of her being and giving strong, positive suggestions too.

Result – one amazed but very happy client who (despite the little pile of soggy tissues) said she felt “lighter”, “clearer”, “happier” – and that was just on the day!

All in a day’s work – is it any wonder I just love what I do?

If you feel that you or someone you know would benefit from my blend of hypnotherapy, past life regression and soul retrieval work, get in touch.
Call me on 07597 020 512 or email me on:  judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk . I’m always happy to have a chat, totally free and totally confidential.

I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex .Related text:  Past Life Regression

I need to see you “now!”

Some time ago now I saw a lady who called to say she needed to see me “now!” When she arrived, and I asked what the problem was, she said she didn’t know where to start, she really was all over the place. She said she didn’t like the person she had become; she wanted to go back to the person she used to be. She admitted that she sometimes had irrational outbursts of anger, directed at strangers, and she hated herself for it.

In a deep state of relaxation and working with her unconscious, we uncovered a beautiful loving spirit who had been with her for a very long time and who was taking good care of her. We also found a male spirit who had been curled up fast asleep – he was quite happy to move on to where he needed to be.

And then there was the other one, the one that was hiding, lurking, and did not really want to come out at all. When I asked how he influenced the client, he said, “I’m all the bad stuff.” I asked if he was the anger and again he said, “yes, I’m all the bad stuff.” After a bit of negotiation he too went on his way, and I then did some work to ensure all the final residues were gone, and the spaces cleansed and re-filled with lovely positive energy. The loving spirit had had her work cut out to keep him in check, and I felt sure that, with him out of the way, her  compassionate influence would be felt even more strongly.

When the client came back to the here and now, she was wide-eyed. She was very aware of all of the individual characters of the spirits, especially “the bad stuff”, and said she felt him leaving. I said that she should start to feel lighter in a couple of days and she laughed. “In a couple of days?” she said, “I feel lighter now, I feel fantastic!” 
She even phoned me the next day to confirm her new-found “lightness” and said, “something has definitely shifted, I haven’t felt this good in years!”

So if you have strange mood swings or irrational outbursts; if you don’t like the person you’ve become and would like to find the old you – give me a call on 07597 020 512 or email me on:  judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk.
Perhaps you’ve picked up a spirit “passenger” along the way and helping it go home could well get you back on your pathway too!

I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex.

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Getting the Message

Getting the message – it’s a huge topic. Where to start?

As I sat and waited for all the many random thoughts pinging around my head to get into some sort of order and start dripping down the filter into my consciousness – or in this case, into my fingers and onto the computer screen, I was struck by the music I was listening to (vintage Roy Orbison, actually). The full sound came from the main speaker, and then a beautiful section came from the speaker behind my left ear, followed by the answering section from behind my right ear.

And somehow, that clicked. It’s not only what The Big O was singing that mattered, but what I was hearing – and how I interpreted that – which affected my overall experience.

There’s another article to be written about information overload (note to self!) – but here I want to focus on the messages we receive from our parents, teachers and relations in our early years. Do those adults understand, I wonder, the huge effect their words can have on young, sensitive children?

I may be repeating this story, but it shocked me so much it bears telling again. I was in a local convenience store a while back, and a young boy aged around 6 or 7 was looking for a newspaper. The papers were not in a rack, but spread on a shelf almost at floor level, with a large pillar making things even more awkward (clearly newspapers were not a top seller!). As the boy picked up his paper and turned away, so some magazines dropped from the next shelf up. He started to put the magazines back, which was very good of him – but I was horrified to hear what he was saying to himself as he did it:

“You’re so clumsy, you’re always dropping things.”

“Stupid boy, why aren’t you more careful?”

“You can never do things right, can you?”

As I helped him to pick up the magazines that had fallen off the shelf, he looked at me as if he expected another verbal lashing. Instead, I smiled and assured him that everything was fine, it was only a few magazines, he was being very nice by putting them back, no harm was done. He looked confused, then embarrassed, as he left to pay for his paper.

I was left wondering just who had so effectively programmed this young boy that he repeated the phrases parrot-fashion in such a situation. Did they realise the damage they had done? That the boy would carry that programming with him as he grew up?

I have worked with a number of clients recently affected by getting the wrong message – or by being harshly programmed, like this little boy. The teacher who smirks, “well, you’ll never get very far at this rate,” or something similar. The father who never told his daughter she was pretty, and only praised her when she got top grades at school. The mother who told her daughter that men were evil and sex was a painful, horrible chore.  All lay the foundations for problems in the future as the child grows up and faces the dilemma of his / her reality and what he / she has been told.

By going back and finding out where those messages came from, and dealing with them at source, it is possible to free the client from those negative chains and allow them to move forward with a new set of messages that are far more relevant to their particular lives. It can be an emotional, tearful, journey – but getting rid of those outdated, non-serving messages is also hugely empowering.

If you feel that you or someone you know would benefit from releasing old programming, get in touch. Call me on 07597 020 512 or email me on:
judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk . I’m always happy to have a chat, totally free and totally confidential.

I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex.

 

Spirit Release work: World War I commander leads his soldiers home

This is a case study from several years ago, but it was so striking at the time, and is so relevant now, that it bears repeating:

A good friend of mine, of the most spiritual ladies I know,  has some serious health issues, including a crumbling spine and constant pain in her chest. Unbeknown to me, she had decided to take herself off her long-term, heavy pain-killing medication a couple of days before I arrived, so she was not in the best of shape when I arrived.

We agreed that I would work with her with hypnotherapy to control her considerable pain. No sooner had she gone into a beautiful deep state of relaxation than she began talking:
“The mud is everywhere, they never told me it would be like this, where are my men . . . .?” At first I thought that she had slipped into a past life, but it quickly became clear that I was talking to someone in the trenches in Belgium in World War I. This young soldier, who gave his name as Commander George, was only in his mid-twenties, and felt desperately unprepared for the carnage all round him. His men were being killed, they were all knee-high in mud all the time, the stench of gas hung in the air and he was very frightened and confused.

While talking to Commander George, he suddenly said, “I’ve been hit. The bits of metal . . . I’m on the operating table, I see the doctors, they’re taking bits of metal out of my body but it’s no good . . . oh lord, I’m dead, aren’t I?”
Having established that yes, he was indeed dead, I explained that he needed to move to the light, where he belonged. He was adamant that he was not going without his men, who were clearly there with him somewhere. While emphasising how well he had done his duty and praising his bravery, I told him he had to order his men to go to the light too. I invited him to see the pathway, to feel the love and the warmth, and to tell his troops to make their way to the light. Only when they had gone did he agree to go too. As he got closer to the light, he said, “oh my, there’s my mother! There’s my dog!”

When my friend came back from that deep state of relaxation, she was as surprised as I was. She said that she felt Commander George, frightened as he was, scamper like a crab from her chest to her left arm, and it was from there that he went to the light. The troops – she said she counted at least eleven of them – were piled up her spine, and left via the base of her spine down a sort of chute. Touchingly, she said that Commander George’s dog was called Shep, something that she just “knew” but which he had not told me.

The next day my friend told me that, for the first time in ten years, she did not have a pain in her chest, and she could breathe normally. A couple of weeks later she emailed me to say she had had to completely re-learn how to sit in her car because her spine was so much stronger and her posture was improving day by day. More recently she drove to see me, a journey of almost three hours, something that would have been impossible before the session. She got out of the car and bounded around like a spring lamb – I could not believe it was the same person.

As she herself said, if she had gone to a conventional hypnotherapist and Commander George had appeared, the therapist may well not have recognised what was happening or how to deal with the situation. But then, we agreed, Commander George only appeared because he knew that he and his troops were in a safe, secure environment in which to make that all-important journey.

That is spirit release work at its very best, and it was a pleasure and a privilege to facilitate that healing.

If you feel that you, or someone you know, might benefit from some past life work, please get in touch. Call me on 07597 020 512 or email me on:
judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk .
I’m always happy to have a chat, totally free and totally confidential.
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and from The Practice Rooms in Hove, East Sussex.

New success stories

It’s always appreciated when clients take the time and effort to let me know how things are going, either after a session or once the work has finished – the actual healing continues way after the final session, and can take weeks or even months to fully process and settle.

This lovely card arrived in the post a while ago – inside the client had written:
“I saw this card in the local shop and thought of you …. what you have achieved in a short time is amazing ….”

Just a couple of weeks ago a lady sent me a long email the day after a session.
She wrote:  “Thank you so much for our session and the spirit release yesterday … I have finally managed to shed some of the armour I had built up over the years and which eventually had desensitised me ……”

And a client I worked with over a period of several months wrote me a letter (how delightfully old-fashioned is that!) which said:

I’m very pleased to write on behalf of Judy Sharp, who I met in October 2017.

 As soon as I spoke to her on the phone I realized she grasped the problems, which were complex and longstanding.

 Within 3 weeks of starting therapy there had been a marked improvement in my physical symptoms and my confidence. Over the next four months the improvements continued and I was able to cope with situations and events that had previously been impossible.

 Her hypnotherapy has turned my life around and I still put her advice and teaching into practice – and it works.

 I feel a new person and this is obvious to friends and family who see a great change for the better.

I have no hesitation in recommending Judy as a first class hypnotherapist and counsellor.

MGJ                 21st September 2018

If you feel that my special blend of hypnotherapy, past life regression, soul retrieval and other processes may help you, or someone you know, why not get in touch? My mobile number is 07597 020 512. I’m always happy to chat – totally free and totally confidential.
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath in West Sussex.

 

Fear, Anxiety, Overwhelm – and Change

Are you feeling a tad “out of sorts” at the moment? Or perhaps totally confused might be more to the point? I speak with so many people who are feeling completely overwhelmed with life in general, they feel helpless, out of control, anxious, even fearful about what is going on around them.
Does that sound familiar? If so, take some comfort from knowing that you are not alone, you have not done anything wrong, it’s not your fault.
At least part of the reason is “out there” in the wider universe, where there are huge energetic changes taking place that affect not only the planet but everything and everyone on it. We are being blasted by energy and, as we are energetic beings ourselves, we are reacting to that. Does that sound a bit whacky? I’m sure it does to some people, but scientists will confirm that the planet is moving through a different part of the solar system, and through a photon belt.
We are in a period of enormous change, at many levels. We are being invited – encouraged – urged – to deal with our “stuff”. Lots of people are, indeed, “clearing out” in one way or another, be it clearing out the shed or the attic; leaving that dead-end job at last; finding the courage to leave that destructive relationship; moving house – whatever it may be, it is part of the process. But it is only a part. What you also need to do is to clear out your emotional attic. This can be just as painful as sorting out all those physical boxes you haven’t looked at in years – and just as cathartic too! It’s time to really look at all the emotional garbage you have been carrying around for years, all the “stuff” that has become part of you but that you don’t really need.

I can help you get rid of all that old “stuff”, make it go away, for good. You will feel lighter, brighter and much more positive, ready to face whatever this new adventure may bring. If that resonates with you, give me a call on 07597 020 512. I’m always happy to have a chat – it’s totally free and totally confidential.
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath; from The Practice Rooms in Hove; and from a lovely stand-alone space in Ifield (Crawley). I look forward to hearing from you!

Irrational Fears and Phobias

When I talk about past life regression – which I do, given half a chance – some people’s eyes glaze over, I can almost see their ears closing. Others, fortunately, are much more open to the idea that a wide range of issues in this life may, in fact, have their root cause in a past life.

Irrational fears and phobias are typical examples – and I have had clients come to me with a whole range of phobias! Common ones include fear of flying, heights, water, crowds, dogs and, of course, spiders. Less common but still not unusual are fear of crossing bridges, any form of surgery or needles, having something around the neck and being alone in the dark.

Usually, people find a way of coping with these fears until such time as they interfere with life so much that something has to be done. I worked with a lady last year who had just become a grandmother, and was overjoyed. Unfortunately, her new grandson was on the other side of the world, and she had a severe fear of flying. If she wanted to see her grandson, she would have to overcome that phobia!
The interesting thing about fear of flying is that there are variations on the theme: for some it is take-off and landing, while for others it is not being in control. For this particular client, it was being in an enclosed space and not being able to get out, a sense of being trapped.

The answer was found, as is so often the case, in a past life. In this instance, it was back in the 1600s when the client was a man in India. His life unfolded as a tale of riches to rags to riches as he lost his rich wife (and her dowry), but managed to marry off his eldest daughter to a wealthy merchant. The  man got caught up in an earthquake in Calcutta, and was trapped under the rubble, unable to get out. He was not found, and died there in the rubble.
The negative emotions were released and healed, and the client came back to full consciousness feeling much lighter.

About a month later I received an email from her, to say that she had taken a short flight  “to make sure it worked” and that she had just returned from that all-important first visit to her grandson on the other side of the world: how lovely is that!

This lady had never done any past life work before, but she was open to the idea, and it certainly worked for her! It could work for you too – if you have an irrational fear or phobia that is holding you back from living life to the full, give me a call on 07597 020 512. I’m always happy to chat – it’s totally free, and totally confidential. I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath; from The Practice Rooms in Hove; and from a lovely stand-alone treatment room in Ifield (Crawley).
I look forward to hearing from you!

 

 

 

 

Creating new habits, new pathways, with the help of the unconscious

When I work with clients, I put them into a deep state of relaxation, and then I access their unconscious minds. I say to them that it is the part that looks after them, and knows everything about them. Which is true, it is the control centre, if you will, and my task is to trace back the real underlying root cause of an issue and resolve it at source.

Very often, a client comes to me with very set beliefs – “everyone does that, don’t they” or “I’m never going to get better” or “that’s just the way it is”.
Well, actually, no. What we think, becomes our reality, because when we constantly think in a certain way, we are creating a pattern that the unconscious takes as an instruction, and does its best to create whatever it may be. It’s called a neural pathway and, like any pathway, the more you tread it, the more pronounced and ingrained it becomes.
Those of you who drive will understand – when you start driving a car, it seemed impossible to keep your hands on the wheel, then put one hand on the gear stick, have your feet doing different things on the pedals without looking, while keeping your eyes on the road and in the mirror – right?
But eventually it all became totally natural, you didn’t have to think about it.
That’s how habits are formed – it takes around three weeks to re-programme the brain into a new way of doing something (that’s why in the bad old days, cigarette companies would say in their advertisements “give it 21 days”).

The unconscious loves imagery which is why so much of my work with clients who are in that state of relaxation is done through visualisation. I use this technique, for instance, when “fitting” a hypnotic gastric band, or when helping people to give up smoking. I use it when I explore traumas that have impacted on clients in this lifetime. When I am going through the process of what I call “cord cutting” – cutting away negative emotions – I actually use a large pair of scissors. The sound of cutting, combined with the strong suggestion that I am cutting away what is no longer needed, is very powerful for the unconscious.

I use similar visual techniques to help people literally shape a new version of themselves, or to “turn down” the level of nagging pain they may be suffering. Because the unconscious responds to such visual suggestions, it is highly effective.

It is all about creating a new pathway to change the habit, the reality, and sometimes I will do just that. I will set up a roadblock, a fallen tree across the road or a diversion sign so that the client has to take another route – which turns out to be a far better way to go. The unconscious accepts the instruction more readily with the added benefit of the visual aid.

The unconscious really does control our reality – but we have the power to create new pathways, new ways of thinking and, therefore, new ways of being!
If you feel I can help you with the issue that is holding you back, please feel free to get in touch – 07597 020 512. I’m always happy to have a chat, totally free of charge and in total confidence.
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath; The Practice Rooms in Hove and a lovely stand-alone treatment room in  Ifield (Crawley).