AND THE WINNER IS …… ANXIETY, EVERY TIME

Whenever I check the stats for what people search for when looking for a therapist, Anxiety is always there at the top of the pile. Even before the extraordinary situation created by Covid-19, it was always Number One, so now it has a clear head and shoulders lead over Stress, Trauma, relationship problems and so on. Why?

Well, for one thing it is a general term that embraces various issues. It’s a word that is thrown around lightly, it’s an “alright” thing to have, it’s accepted and (sort of) understood.

The NHS defines anxiety as “a state of unease, such as worry or fear,  that may be mild or severe, ”
It is perfectly normal – and healthy – to feel anxious at certain times. This goes back to the old “fight or flight” syndrome of stone-age man. When coming face-to-face with a hungry lion, the man had to make a choice – stay and fight the beast, or run. The chemical process triggered in the body in the split seconds it took him to make his decision has been clearly identified, and involves the amygdala, at the back of the brain. At the first sign of danger, it releases adrenalin, a chemical that puts certain systems on high alert. It also shuts down systems that are not so important: stone age man would not have been aware of being hungry or wanting to have a pee when faced with a hungry lion. All resources are pumped to the brain, the muscles, the heart and the senses.
Once the crisis is over – when stone-age man has killed the lion or escaped from its clutches, the flow of adrenalin is stopped, and the systems return to normal.
A touch of adrenalin is a good thing – it gives us that “edge” before we make a presentation, or have an interview or take a driving test. But prolonged adrenalin is like driving a car with the choke out all the time (those of you too young to remember cars with chokes, go Google it!). There is too much “juice” getting in to the system, it’s working on overdrive, and that is not healthy.
Too much adrenalin in a system is like too much petrol in an engine – it floods!

There are many factors in our normal everyday life that may cause anxiety – work, financial worries, relationship, kids, moving house, death of a loved one  to name but a few. Add into the mix the shadow of Covid-19 and the many implications of that, and there is a perfect storm. People are either rushed off their feet at work on the frontline, in highly-stressed situations, or are stuck at home unable to work, with time and space to think about all the things that might go wrong.
The news is full of horror stories, numbers of death and people suffering: the levels of fear and panic are stirred up constantly.

In all of my work, I seek to trace back the real, underlying root cause of an issue and resolve it at source. A client’s irrational, ongoing anxiety may be the result of an incident or a trauma in their early childhood – or perhaps even much earlier, in a previous life (that is far more common than you may think). It may stem from a set of circumstances that, to the client at least, cannot be changed, leaving him or her powerless.

In exploring the client’s perspective of the situation and the wider world, i can help the client to uncover the  cause of the anxiety if it is a “this lifetime” root.
This may be done by creating a safe space for the client to “download” all the “stuff” that has been building up inside – all the “what if …?” scenarios, the fears, the insecurities and so on.
Or, perhaps some hypnotherapy and past life regression may be more effective, to explore the unconscious levels of the mind and see what is being held there.

Long-term anxiety can be debilitating and exhausting, and can have a serious impact on someone’s quality of life and well-being.
Uncovering the real underlying root cause and resolving the issue at source allows that person to get on with his or her life.

If you would like to have an initial chat about this, or any other aspect of my work, please do not hesitate to get in touch. An initial chat is totally free and there is no commitment at all. My home number is 01444 459 433 and my mobile is 07597 020 512.
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex and appropriate measures are now in place to meet all the Covid-19 requirements.

 

 

IS LIFE FEELING LIKE A LABYRINTH RIGHT NOW?

Over these past few month, lots of things have changed – and, probably, so have you. This enforced time out has allowed us – almost forced us – to stop and think about who we are and who we would like to be; what we are and what we would like to be; where we are and where we would like to be.
All sorts of issues may have come up, at physical, mental and emotional levels, “stuff” that needs to be dealt with.
Sorting through that “stuff” can be challenging and uncomfortable, but it is only by deciding what to keep and what to leave behind that you can start to set a new course that more closely matches your new future.
My therapy bag contains a range of tools collected, worked with and honed over many years. Not only hypnotherapy and past life regression but also creating a safe, confidential space for talking – and listening: coaching and mentoring; tackling those tricky issues without judgment, without a hidden agenda.
If you know someone who could benefit from a guiding hand out of the labyrinth, give them my contact details –
01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512 – or point them to my website: www.effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk

BACK TO WORK: FACE-TO-FACE SESSIONS ALLOWED FROM 4th JULY

Great news! Both of my professional bodies, CNHC and GHR, have confirmed that face-to-face sessions are permitted as from 4th July.
I shall be starting work again on Monday 6th July, from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex. Vinings is a very homely place with just four treatment rooms and a very friendly atmosphere. It has had a deep clean and new measures are in place to comply with the new Covid regulations.

If you feel that my blend of hypnotherapy and past life regression may help you with issues that might have surfaced during lockdown, get in touch.
Perhaps you would welcome a safe, secure space in which to “download”, let go of stuff that has been building up to boiling up? It can make such a difference to have an experienced someone listen – really listen – someone who is not in that “friends and family” circle, someone with no agenda, who is not going to judge but who can perhaps look from a different perspective.

I’m always happy to have an initial chat, totally free of charge, and with no commitment at all. My home number is 01444 459 433 and my mobile is 07597 020 512.

3 KEY QUESTIONS FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP

In any relationship, be in personal or business, there are good times and there are bumpy times. If the relationships are strong, then the issues can be aired in an open, respectful way. Misunderstandings can be sorted out, challenges can be met, problems resolved. But if the relationship is not built on strong foundations, then the slightest thing can cause small cracks to become gaping chasms.
Relationships can change over time without us really noticing. It takes something drastic to make us stop and look – and certainly this lockdown has been such a trigger.
Many people find themselves spending more time than usual with their partners. There are no distractions, no hiding places, so the focus is very much on getting along – or not.
Many others find themselves working from home instead of in an office – or perhaps not working at all. They have time to sit back and consider how they feel about their job – the stress, the time, the toll it has taken …

Whether we are talking about a personal relationship or a business one, there are just three key questions to ask yourself.
Allow yourself a bit of space and time to be still, to be calm and quiet, to check in with yourself honestly. You are connecting with that still, small voice inside, whatever you may call it – your Inner Self, your Higher Self, your Intuition. Listen to it and take notice of what it is telling you – don’t drown it out with a pile of “ifs” or “buts” – these are more distractions from the reality, the truth of your current situation.

1.     Am I happy in this relationship?
We could say that, if you are doing this exercise, we know the answer to this question, and that may well be right. Be honest, whatever pops into your head is the answer to go with.

2.    Is this a healthy relationship?
We now know that emotional health is very frequently – almost always – reflected in physical symptoms and issues. If you are in a relationship that is not healthy, then you may well be suffering from, say, high blood pressure, high cholesterol levels or other stress-related issues; your immune system may not be as strong as it could be. Any of these could indicate frustration, resentment, anger, a sense of being “battered and bruised” or treated unfairly.
You may have issues around your throat or mouth or eyes or ears (not being able to speak your truth; not liking what you are seeing or hearing).
Are you actively looking for diversions and distractions – alcohol, food, drugs? Another relationship? A hobby? Anything that takes you away from the person and / or the place?

3.      Is it likely that things will improve?
You may well need to sit and think about this and the sister question –
“do you really want things to improve?”
If we are talking about a business / work situation, then there may be two or three clear issues that are causing distress. Have you raised them with your line manager or HR or whoever is the most appropriate? If not, dare one ask, why not? Is there anything that you could do to improve things – be honest here, don’t just blame others when a bit of give and take could shift the situation.
If we are talking about a personal relationship, the process is basically the same. Can you clearly identify the key issues that are causing problems?
Have you raised these issues with your partner – not after a couple of bottles of red, but in a calm, rational way, each respecting the space and views of the other? Have you considered counselling or therapy, either as an individual or as a couple?

Once you have answered these three questions honestly, you will be in a much better position to know what your next steps need to be.
Sometimes, it can help to talk these things through with someone who is not in the family / friend circle. Someone who can actively listen without making any judgments but perhaps asking a few pertinent questions to allow you to come to your own conclusions.
Not all of my work needs to involve hypnosis – although it can be very useful in getting to what is going on at an unconscious level – and this is a perfect example of what I would call “talking therapy.

If you feel I might be able to help, give me a call on 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512: no cost, no commitment, just a chat that might well change the way you look at things.