These past few months have been challenging at every level, in so many ways.
The usual routine has been turned on its head, individuals and families have had to adapt to completely new ways of co-existing. While for some this has been a time to press the “pause” button and think about a different way of living and working in the future, for others it has been highly stressful.
Couples who normally had distractions of work, gym, hobbies, nights out with the boys / girls, suddenly find themselves spending far more time together, with no distractions. If there were little cracks in the relationship, Lockdown could well have ripped them wide open. If there were issues that had been swept under the carpet – the carpet was whipped away, leave bare floorboards and piles of “stuff” to be dealt with. With nowhere to hide, couples had a choice – retreat to their respective corners and draw a line to divide them, or try and resolve the various issues that came to the surface. Sadly, for some, it resulted in abuse too: calls to the various emergency help lines have soared during this period.
For some people, then, Lockdown has been a time of being locked in with someone they would not choose to spend so much time with.
For others, it has been a time of being locked in with no access to the one person they would want to be with, including those having affairs.
And for yet others, it has meant being lonely as well as alone. Many people who live on their own rely on their jobs or their keep-fit classes or similar regular activities to provide the social interaction we all need. When confined to their homes – often small flats with little or no green space around – their four walls can seem like a prison. Anxiety, fed by news reports on the TV and in newspapers, can rise to panic proportions. The individual can be knocked off balance and, in that state, fear can take over. Deprived of human interaction, such people can easily slide into the big black hole of depression, hiding away as the world seems an ever-darker, more dangerous place.
For all of these people – the couples and the singles – the return to whatever may pass for normality is going to be a rocky road. It is not possible to “just go back the way it was” because too much water has passed under the proverbial bridge. It can need time and support to identify the issues and deal with them in a calm, logical, constructive way.
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