Are you a typical hypnotherapy client?

I am often asked about the type of people who come to see me, and what sort of issues they are looking to resolve. The assumption is that, because the way I work is a tad “off piste” shall we say, that my clients are a bit whacky too.

Screen shot 2014-02-17 at 3.53.31 PMNot so. My clients span the spectrum of trades and professions, from police officers and airline cabin crew to business consultants, top executives and successful entrepreneurs. Mixed in with a goodly sprinkling of women who look after home and children or do regular granny duty!

pensive mature womanThe age range is from mid-20s to late 60s, with a couple of clients in their 70s. Proportion about 1/3 men to 2/3 women. Issues range far and wide, from various fears and phobias to giving up smoking; from weight problems to pain control. But actually, underlying many of these “presenting problems” as we call them, were emotional and relationship issues.

Typically a woman will reach that point in her life when the youngest child is just off to university, there could well be a crisis of some kind in the relationship with her husband, perhaps issues from her childhood have been triggered …. any one of these on its own would be enough to pile on weight, but two or more and it is almost certain that there will be comfort eating and it will be tough to get rid of the excess weight. I don’t recommend more hours in the gym or fewer lettuce leaves for lunch; rather I help the client to trace back the real root cause of the issue, and we resolve it at source, be that childhood in this life or way back in another lifetime.

Or it may be that a client will say something like, “I feel something’s come over me” or “I’m not myself” or “I want my old self back:” Have you found yourself saying that? That indicates to me that you could well have picked up a spirit “Passenger” along the way. Nothing dramatic, it can be sorted out very easily – and voilá, you have your old self back!

Fear of success; addictive behaviours; nagging anxiety; sleep walking or activity in a sleep state; lack of confidence: do any of those ring a bell with you? Perhaps you are curious about a past life – do you have flashbacks, or a recurring dream? Or are you perhaps just on your own spiritual journey and feel that delving that bit deeper into who you were could help that process along?

If so – you are a typical client for hypnotherapy, and I would love to hear from you!

I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and I am very flexible on times. Clients who come to see me from London very often come at weekends, for instance – they enjoy the easy train journey (less than an hour) and the peace, quiet and fresh air of the Sussex countryside!

You can call me on 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512: I look forward to hearing from you!



A good friend of mine, of the most spiritual ladies I know,  has some serious health issues, including a crumbling spine and constant pain in her chest. Unbeknown to me, she had decided to take herself off her long-term, heavy pain-killing medication a couple of days before I arrived, so she was not in the best of shape when I arrived.

We agreed that I would work with her with hypnotherapy to control her considerable pain. No sooner had she gone into a beautiful deep state of relaxation than she began talking: “The mud is everywhere, they never told me it would be like this, where are my men . . . .?” At first I thought that she had slipped into a past life, but it quickly became clear that I was talking to someone in the trenches in Belgium in World War I. This young soldier, who gave his name as Commander George, was only in his mid-twenties, and felt desperately unprepared for the carnage all round him. His men were being killed, they were all knee-high in mud all the time, the stench of gas hung in the air and he was very frightened and confused.

Screen shot 2015-10-29 at 10.34.06 AMWhile talking to Commander George, he suddenly said, “I’ve been hit. The bits of metal . . . I’m on the operating table, I see the doctors, they’re taking bits of metal out of my body but it’s no good . . . oh lord, I’m dead, aren’t I?”
Having established that yes, he was indeed dead, I explained that he needed to move to the light, where he belonged. He was adamant that he was not going without his men, who were clearly there with him somewhere. While emphasising how well he had done his duty and praising his bravery, I told him he had to order his men to go to the light too. I invited him to see the pathway, to feel the love and the warmth, and to tell his troops to make their way to the light. Only when they had gone did he agree to go too. As he got closer to the light, he said, “oh my, there’s my mother! There’s my dog!”

When my friend came back from that deep state of relaxation, she was as surprised as I was. She said that she felt Commander George, frightened as he was, scamper like a crab from her chest to her left arm, and it was from there that he went to the light. The troops – she said she counted at least eleven of them – were piled up her spine, and left via the base of her spine down a sort of chute. Touchingly, she said that Commander George’s dog was called Shep, something that she just “knew” but which he had not told me.

The next day my friend told me that, for the first time in ten years, she did not have a pain in her chest, and she could breathe normally. A couple of weeks later she emailed me to say she had had to completely re-learn how to sit in her car because her spine was so much stronger and her posture was improving day by day. More recently she drove to see me, a journey of almost three hours, something that would have been impossible before the session. She got out of the car and bounded around like a spring lamb – I could not believe it was the same person.

As she herself said, if she had gone to a conventional hypnotherapist and Commander George had appeared, the therapist may well not have recognised what was happening or how to deal with the situation. But then, we agreed, Commander George only appeared because he knew that he and his troops were in a safe, secure environment in which to make that all-important journey.

That is spirit release work at its very best, and it was a pleasure and a privilege to facilitate that healing.


There is increasing research to support the theory that pain very often has its roots in emotional rather than physical causes.
Hypnosis has a very good track record of dealing with pain, in a number of ways. When it is used to decrease the intensity of pain, for instance, it not only significantly decreases that pain intensity but also activity in those areas of the brain that deal with the experience of pain.

By making suggestions to the client about how unpleasant the pain is (reducing the intensity on the scale), people can experience their pain in a less bad way – and again, this also affects the limbic part of the brain that controls emotional responses.

Because hypnosis is a relaxing process reducing pain – and therefore stress – very often allows the body to heal more quickly.

When I have worked with clients in the past, I have sometimes asked them to give aScreen shot 2015-10-29 at 10.25.20 AM colour, shape and size to their pain. Typically, a client might say, “it’s big and blobby and red.” Depending on the situation, I might suggest that instead of being a big red blob, the pain might be a big red balloon – and I will invite the client to let go of the balloon, watching it float away into the sky.  Or a big red blob might become a smaller red blob, then a small red ball, a small pink ball, soft and fluffy, then thrown on a fire.

Or perhaps we will use the analogy of a volume control knob, so the client can “turn down” the level of pain. Interestingly, by asking the client to first “increase the volume” and then “turn it down”, they can see – in their deep state of relaxation – that they are in charge.

By separating the pain from the person, it is possible to manipulate it and change its characteristics, allowing people to take control of their pain.



Hypnosis has been used as a form of pain control for centuries. Indeed, it was often the only form of pain killer available, be it on the battle field or even in the maternity ward for mothers-to-be. Even Queen Victoria had one of her children with the help of hypnosis before anaesthetics were truly tried, tested and proven.

What is pain? More often than not, you can’t touch it; sometimes you can’t even pinpoint where it comes from – but you feel it, right? It’s real, it’s fact, right? Well, not totally. It is actually a construct of the brain – and as such, can be de-constructed.

Screen shot 2015-10-29 at 10.08.13 AMLet’s just imagine you have bare feet. You tread on grass – the sensory nerves pick up on this, and send a message in the form of chemical reaction, to the brain, via your spinal cord. It will record perhaps cool, soft, wet (if there is dew), pleasant. There is no “ouch” or immediate pulling away. But imagine that you tread instead on a drawing pin or a jagged piece of glass. The sensory nerves send different messages, different chemicals are triggered and the brain responds by sending danger signals – “ouch”, you pull away, you expect to “feel” pain.

The key to how we react to pain is actually in the spinal cord, a highly-complex collection of nerves, constantly transmitting signals to and from the brain. But areas of the spinal cord do more – they make decisions too. The dorsal horn, for instance, collects information and processes it so the instruction to pull your foot away from the drawing pin comes from there. But the brain still needs to know what’s going on, so information is sent on to Head Office, as it were, for processing and filing for future reference. After all, your foot has had that experience, and there needs to be some healing.

In the brain (Head Office), the details are received by the thalmus, and analysed and  logged in the cortex – was this sharper than that starfish you trod on a few years ago? Was it more of a shock than cutting your foot when you fell over? Have you ever stepped on a drawing pin before? The thalmus also copies in the limbic system, the emotional centre of the brain. It’s the limbic system that makes the key decisions regarding reaction – cold sweat, quickness of breathing, tears . . . how did we react before? Is this more or less serious? What is the appropriate emotional response?

And as if that wasn’t confusing enough, the brain also flicks through the files to see how we reacted before, is there any history of this? What was the result of the similar experience last time? What was happening around that time? Do we have to press the panic button or is it just a minor irritant?

You can see a perfect example of this “cause and effect” when a small child falls over on the street. It will look to its parent to see how to react. If the parent smiles and says something like, “well, that was silly, wasn’t it, up you get now . . . ” the child will get up and scamper away as if nothing happened. If the parent looks horrified and makes a big fuss, the child will pick up on the panic, start crying and make a scene. And at that time, the child is being programmed to respond to that type of situation in one way or the other.

By investigating how a person has been programmed to respond to pain in general, and the particular circumstances around the specific pain that is being experienced, it is often possible to change that person’s perception to the sensations being experienced.


Written testimonials

Sometimes clients will write me a letter – or, more commonly nowadays, send me an email – to let me know what changes have come about in their lives as a result of their sessions with me. It is always a pleasure to receive such feedback. A handful are reproduced here, to give a flavour of the wide range of issues that have been resolved.
Names have been  removed to maintain client confidentiality. First, a selection of “one-liners” and then a few slightly longer explanations.

“I’m more present, more awake.”

“I left (the session) not knowing up or down …. There was lots of processing, and now I am lighter, happier and more joyful.”

“I haven’t felt this good in my life.       I’ve turned the corner.”

“The work you’ve done so far has been an enormous help, thank you very much!”

“It’s easier for me to accept who I am. I’m happy with who I am, and I’m easier to get on with.”


screen-shot-2016-10-06-at-20-04-44“I really enjoyed the session, and did indeed feel the benefit of it. With regards my back, it felt very much improved straight away as you know, with a feeling of freeness that I had not experienced for years. ….. Also re the food issue, that seems to be improving too. Initially there didn’t seem to be any difference in the way I felt about food, but maybe a week or so later, it was like a switch had been flicked in my head, and I just felt all of a sudden that I ‘didn’t need to be fat anymore’ ….. It would be lovely for this to be something that I can leave behind in the past. Or perhaps more usefully, something that can be consigned to the mental rubbish bin as it is something that is now no longer required in my life.”

“I’m calmer, more relaxed. I’m able to let go, I’m finding it easier to make decisions.
My back is feeling much better. I have had problems with my right wrist for years, it is now loosening up and becoming more flexible.”


pear with tape measure, portrait
“Food portion sizes are now smaller, I’m feeling fuller sooner. I’ve definitely got more energy, and I’m doing more. I’m sleeping well at night. I’ve moved on from guilt and anger.
“I’m good enough for myself.”



aeroplane in the sky
“I just wanted to drop you an email to let you know how successful my sessions were.
I don’t think I will ever enjoy flying but at least I am able to fly. It was so nice to visit my son (and new grandchild) and this was made possible because of your help.”


Screen shot 2015-08-25 at 7.05.33 PM
“It’s been several weeks since I last saw you and, as promised, I thought I’d let you know how things are with me.      
I have used the relaxation disc you gave me most days and I have gained great benefit from it.  
 I still suffer with pain in my back but I do have days when it is much less painful and I feel my health has benefited with relaxing more and listening to your words.
So, I am grateful for your help and send my best wishes, hoping all is well with you.”

3 cartoon girls dancing
“I just wanted to thank you and let you know how I was getting on after that amazing session with you last Wednesday.
I felt truly unburdened and free, as well as powerful and glorious. I  feel I’ve reached a point I’ve been straining towards for years – a point where I have full confidence in who I am and full faith in all that is. And unexpectedly an enormous amount of joy and fun came from it too!
Everyone around me noticed – my interactions with others has changed a lot – no more neediness towards others, just a desire to empower and love them.
So I was on a real high for several days. No more sleeping pills – I just don’t want or need them anymore – and I’m now slowly cutting back on the other medication too.”


green apple and tape measure
“I thought I’d send you a quick email to let you know how I’m doing after our 3 sessions recently.
I started the ( ) Weight Plan shortly after our sessions and I’ve lost 2 stone in 7 weeks!
It’s a very low calorie diet (600 per day everyday) but I have stuck to it religiously and not strayed once! People around me can’t believe I haven’t binged or had a ‘treat’ but I truly have not strayed and reaped the rewards!
I’ve got another 2 and half stone to lose but feel very positive and cannot believe how well this is going for me.
It’s all down to our sessions so I’d like to thank you very much.”





In a typical first session, the client will sit with their fingers draped over a large tissue box. Hardly high-tech, but very effective. It is in this way that I talk with the client’s unconscious, setting the agenda for the issues to be dealt with. The unconscious tells me which years we need to investigate, where fragments of the client’s soul had been splintered off; it tells me whether we need to check out one or ore past lives; and it guides me to any spirit passengers.

When I explain this process to my clients, some of them – most of them – are dubious about my Wiggly Finger Technique. But afterwards, they have to admit it works extremely well!

I am starting to upload recorded comments from some of my clients – check out this one from “Angela” as a starter.



I am currently compiling some testimonials from clients who have been to see me for issues ranging from constant, nagging pain to obesity. Listening to these people and reading their emails makes me smile. Not only because I am delighted that I have helped them, but because of some of the phrases they use.

One lady who came to see me because she had been suffering for years with debilitating back pain, wrote:”I have used the relaxation disc you gave me most days and I have gained great benefit from it. ”
This is from a lady who had never experienced hypnotherapy before and was quite skeptical of the whole process but who, after the first session, said she was very relaxed and yes, the pain decreased with each session, allowing her to enjoy walking for several hours around a large shopping centre without having to take a pain killer or sit down for a rest.

Another young lady, who came to see me in order to have a hypnotic gastric band fitted, giggled with delight after each session. “That was weird, really weird,” she would say – “but it works!” In her first session, a spirit “passenger” was released – and immediately after that, the client lost her cravings for cakes and biscuits. In the second session we explored a past life in which she had died hungry. Following that, her obsession with food faded, and she began having healthy, salad lunches. And when the hypnotic gastric band had been fitted, she immediately began to lose weight at a steady, healthy rate.

With another lady, who came to see me initially because she was seriously overweight, we did a lot of work on “peeling the emotional onion” and re-discovering her true self, building up her inner strength. We uncovered and resolved a number of deep-seated emotional issues which lightened her load enormously. Her comment was, “I’ve had counselling in the past, Jude, but it was nothing like the work you do!” She went on, “the counselling I’ve had before seemed to go round in circles – with you, we’ve sorted out the problem and I feel so much better!”

Now that’s what I like to hear!

related content:  how I work


One of the many things I love about working with the unconscious is the enormous range of issues that can be tackled, helping people to move on with their lives.

Constant, nagging pain must be one of the most debilitating disorders to have – and hypnosis has a range of ways to help counter that.

A lady came to see me recently as a referral from another therapist. Due to a back condition, she has almost constant pain in her lower back. This lovely lady was at least three-scroe-years and ten, and otherwise in very good health. She was skeptical about the effectiveness of hypnosis but open-minded enough to give it a go – good for her!

After the first session, she declared she felt incredibly relaxed – which, in turn, eased the pressure on her back and so relieved the pain. In the second session I “turned down the pain” to half the usual setting. I issued new instructions to the control centre in the spine and the one in the brain. At the third session, the lady was positively beaming. She told me that she and her husband had been to one of the large shopping centres the day before, and that she had walked round for more than two hours without any pain. “Even now I can only just feel it” she said.

So in that session, I turned off the pain. Clearly in the instructions there were caveats – after all, pain is usually a warning that there is something wrong, so we don’t want to cut it off completely. But for the affected area, in all normal circumstances, let’s turn off the pain.

Did it work? Watch this space!

related content:  pain control


Vinings Natural Health Centre in Church Road, Haywards Heath, West Sussex, is my “home base” for my hypnotherapy work. Vinings celebrates its 25th anniversary this year, a real milestone for this centre which has been providing complementary and holistic therapies for a quarter of a century.

I offer the full range of hypnosis-based treatments, from fears & phobias to stress management; from pain control and depression to giving up smoking. I work with weight management, including hypnotic gastric banding. I also offer past life regression, and use this technique to find the root causes and resolve all types of issues that affect this life.

I look forward to seeing you there!