Creating new habits, new pathways, with the help of the unconscious

When I work with clients, I put them into a deep state of relaxation, and then I access their unconscious minds. I say to them that it is the part that looks after them, and knows everything about them. Which is true, it is the control centre, if you will, and my task is to trace back the real underlying root cause of an issue and resolve it at source.

Very often, a client comes to me with very set beliefs – “everyone does that, don’t they” or “I’m never going to get better” or “that’s just the way it is”.
Well, actually, no. What we think, becomes our reality, because when we constantly think in a certain way, we are creating a pattern that the unconscious takes as an instruction, and does its best to create whatever it may be. It’s called a neural pathway and, like any pathway, the more you tread it, the more pronounced and ingrained it becomes.
Those of you who drive will understand – when you start driving a car, it seemed impossible to keep your hands on the wheel, then put one hand on the gear stick, have your feet doing different things on the pedals without looking, while keeping your eyes on the road and in the mirror – right?
But eventually it all became totally natural, you didn’t have to think about it.
That’s how habits are formed – it takes around three weeks to re-programme the brain into a new way of doing something (that’s why in the bad old days, cigarette companies would say in their advertisements “give it 21 days”).

The unconscious loves imagery which is why so much of my work with clients who are in that state of relaxation is done through visualisation. I use this technique, for instance, when “fitting” a hypnotic gastric band, or when helping people to give up smoking. I use it when I explore traumas that have impacted on clients in this lifetime. When I am going through the process of what I call “cord cutting” – cutting away negative emotions – I actually use a large pair of scissors. The sound of cutting, combined with the strong suggestion that I am cutting away what is no longer needed, is very powerful for the unconscious.

I use similar visual techniques to help people literally shape a new version of themselves, or to “turn down” the level of nagging pain they may be suffering. Because the unconscious responds to such visual suggestions, it is highly effective.

It is all about creating a new pathway to change the habit, the reality, and sometimes I will do just that. I will set up a roadblock, a fallen tree across the road or a diversion sign so that the client has to take another route – which turns out to be a far better way to go. The unconscious accepts the instruction more readily with the added benefit of the visual aid.

The unconscious really does control our reality – but we have the power to create new pathways, new ways of thinking and, therefore, new ways of being!
If you feel I can help you with the issue that is holding you back, please feel free to get in touch – 07597 020 512. I’m always happy to have a chat, totally free of charge and in total confidence.
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath; The Practice Rooms in Hove and a lovely stand-alone treatment room in  Ifield (Crawley).

Are you a typical hypnotherapy client?

I am often asked about the type of people who come to see me, and what sort of issues they are looking to resolve. The assumption is that, because the way I work is a tad “off piste” shall we say, that my clients are a bit whacky too.

Screen shot 2014-02-17 at 3.53.31 PMNot so. My clients span the spectrum of trades and professions, from police officers and airline cabin crew to business consultants, top executives and successful entrepreneurs. Mixed in with a goodly sprinkling of women who look after home and children or do regular granny duty!

pensive mature womanThe age range is from mid-20s to late 60s, with a couple of clients in their 70s. Proportion about 1/3 men to 2/3 women. Issues range far and wide, from various fears and phobias to giving up smoking; from weight problems to pain control. But actually, underlying many of these “presenting problems” as we call them, were emotional and relationship issues.

Typically a woman will reach that point in her life when the youngest child is just off to university, there could well be a crisis of some kind in the relationship with her husband, perhaps issues from her childhood have been triggered …. any one of these on its own would be enough to pile on weight, but two or more and it is almost certain that there will be comfort eating and it will be tough to get rid of the excess weight. I don’t recommend more hours in the gym or fewer lettuce leaves for lunch; rather I help the client to trace back the real root cause of the issue, and we resolve it at source, be that childhood in this life or way back in another lifetime.

Or it may be that a client will say something like, “I feel something’s come over me” or “I’m not myself” or “I want my old self back:” Have you found yourself saying that? That indicates to me that you could well have picked up a spirit “Passenger” along the way. Nothing dramatic, it can be sorted out very easily – and voilá, you have your old self back!

Fear of success; addictive behaviours; nagging anxiety; sleep walking or activity in a sleep state; lack of confidence: do any of those ring a bell with you? Perhaps you are curious about a past life – do you have flashbacks, or a recurring dream? Or are you perhaps just on your own spiritual journey and feel that delving that bit deeper into who you were could help that process along?

If so – you are a typical client for hypnotherapy, and I would love to hear from you!

I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and from The Practice Rooms in Hove, East Sussex.
You can call me on 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512 or email me on:
judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk .

I look forward to hearing from you!

 

WHAT DOES PAIN LOOK LIKE?

There is increasing research to support the theory that pain very often has its roots in emotional rather than physical causes.
Hypnosis has a very good track record of dealing with pain, in a number of ways. When it is used to decrease the intensity of pain, for instance, it not only significantly decreases that pain intensity but also activity in those areas of the brain that deal with the experience of pain.

By making suggestions to the client about how unpleasant the pain is (reducing the intensity on the scale), people can experience their pain in a less bad way – and again, this also affects the limbic part of the brain that controls emotional responses.

Because hypnosis is a relaxing process reducing pain – and therefore stress – very often allows the body to heal more quickly.

When I have worked with clients in the past, I have sometimes asked them to give a colour, shape and size to their pain. Typically, a client might say, “it’s big and blobby and red.” Depending on the situation, I might suggest that instead of being a big red blob, the pain might be a big red balloon – and I will invite the client to let go of the balloon, watching it float away into the sky.  Or a big red blob might become a smaller red blob, then a small red ball, a small pink ball, soft and fluffy, then thrown on a fire.

Or perhaps we will use the analogy of a volume control knob, so the client can “turn down” the level of pain. Interestingly, by asking the client to first “increase the volume” and then “turn it down”, they can see – in their deep state of relaxation – that they are in charge.

By separating the pain from the person, it is possible to manipulate it and change its characteristics, allowing people to take control of their pain.

If you feel that you, or someone you know, could benefit from “turning down the pain”, get in touch. Call me on 07597 020 512 or email me on:
judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk . I’m always happy to have a chat, totally free and totally confidential.
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and from The Practice Rooms in Hove, East Sussex.

PAIN CONTROL: WHY YOUR BRAIN SAYS “OUCH”

Hypnosis has been used as a form of pain control for centuries. Indeed, it was often the only form of pain killer available, be it on the battle field or even in the maternity ward for mothers-to-be. Even Queen Victoria had one of her children with the help of hypnosis before anaesthetics were truly tried, tested and proven.

What is pain? More often than not, you can’t touch it; sometimes you can’t even pinpoint where it comes from – but you feel it, right? It’s real, it’s fact, right? Well, not totally. It is actually a construct of the brain – and as such, can be de-constructed.

Screen shot 2015-10-29 at 10.08.13 AMLet’s just imagine you have bare feet. You tread on grass – the sensory nerves pick up on this, and send a message in the form of chemical reaction, to the brain, via your spinal cord. It will record perhaps cool, soft, wet (if there is dew), pleasant. There is no “ouch” or immediate pulling away. But imagine that you tread instead on a drawing pin or a jagged piece of glass. The sensory nerves send different messages, different chemicals are triggered and the brain responds by sending danger signals – “ouch”, you pull away, you expect to “feel” pain.

The key to how we react to pain is actually in the spinal cord, a highly-complex collection of nerves, constantly transmitting signals to and from the brain. But areas of the spinal cord do more – they make decisions too. The dorsal horn, for instance, collects information and processes it so the instruction to pull your foot away from the drawing pin comes from there. But the brain still needs to know what’s going on, so information is sent on to Head Office, as it were, for processing and filing for future reference. After all, your foot has had that experience, and there needs to be some healing.

In the brain (Head Office), the details are received by the thalmus, and analysed and  logged in the cortex – was this sharper than that starfish you trod on a few years ago? Was it more of a shock than cutting your foot when you fell over? Have you ever stepped on a drawing pin before? The thalmus also copies in the limbic system, the emotional centre of the brain. It’s the limbic system that makes the key decisions regarding reaction – cold sweat, quickness of breathing, tears . . . how did we react before? Is this more or less serious? What is the appropriate emotional response?

And as if that wasn’t confusing enough, the brain also flicks through the files to see how we reacted before, is there any history of this? What was the result of the similar experience last time? What was happening around that time? Do we have to press the panic button or is it just a minor irritant?

You can see a perfect example of this “cause and effect” when a small child falls over on the street. It will look to its parent to see how to react. If the parent smiles and says something like, “well, that was silly, wasn’t it, up you get now . . . ” the child will get up and scamper away as if nothing happened. If the parent looks horrified and makes a big fuss, the child will pick up on the panic, start crying and make a scene. And at that time, the child is being programmed to respond to that type of situation in one way or the other.

By investigating how a person has been programmed to respond to pain in general, and the particular circumstances around the specific pain that is being experienced, it is often possible to change that person’s perception to the sensations being experienced.

If you feel that you, or someone you know, might benefit from some pain control, get in touch. Call me on 07597 020 512 or email me on:
judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk.  I’m always happy to have a chat, totally free and totally confidential.
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and from The Practice Rooms in Hove, East Sussex.

 

Written testimonials

Sometimes clients will write me a letter – or, more commonly nowadays, send me an email – to let me know what changes have come about in their lives as a result of their sessions with me. It is always a pleasure to receive such feedback. A handful are reproduced here, to give a flavour of the wide range of issues that have been resolved.
Names have been  removed to maintain client confidentiality. First, a selection of “one-liners” and then a few slightly longer explanations.

“I’m more present, more awake.”

“I left (the session) not knowing up or down …. There was lots of processing, and now I am lighter, happier and more joyful.”

“I haven’t felt this good in my life.       I’ve turned the corner.”

“The work you’ve done so far has been an enormous help, thank you very much!”

“It’s easier for me to accept who I am. I’m happy with who I am, and I’m easier to get on with.”

 

screen-shot-2016-10-06-at-20-04-44“I really enjoyed the session, and did indeed feel the benefit of it. With regards my back, it felt very much improved straight away as you know, with a feeling of freeness that I had not experienced for years. ….. Also re the food issue, that seems to be improving too. Initially there didn’t seem to be any difference in the way I felt about food, but maybe a week or so later, it was like a switch had been flicked in my head, and I just felt all of a sudden that I ‘didn’t need to be fat anymore’ ….. It would be lovely for this to be something that I can leave behind in the past. Or perhaps more usefully, something that can be consigned to the mental rubbish bin as it is something that is now no longer required in my life.”

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“I’m calmer, more relaxed. I’m able to let go, I’m finding it easier to make decisions.
My back is feeling much better. I have had problems with my right wrist for years, it is now loosening up and becoming more flexible.”

 

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“Food portion sizes are now smaller, I’m feeling fuller sooner. I’ve definitely got more energy, and I’m doing more. I’m sleeping well at night. I’ve moved on from guilt and anger.
“I’m good enough for myself.”

 

 

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“I just wanted to drop you an email to let you know how successful my sessions were.
I don’t think I will ever enjoy flying but at least I am able to fly. It was so nice to visit my son (and new grandchild) and this was made possible because of your help.”

 

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“It’s been several weeks since I last saw you and, as promised, I thought I’d let you know how things are with me.      
I have used the relaxation disc you gave me most days and I have gained great benefit from it.  
 I still suffer with pain in my back but I do have days when it is much less painful and I feel my health has benefited with relaxing more and listening to your words.
So, I am grateful for your help and send my best wishes, hoping all is well with you.”

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“I just wanted to thank you and let you know how I was getting on after that amazing session with you last Wednesday.
I felt truly unburdened and free, as well as powerful and glorious. I  feel I’ve reached a point I’ve been straining towards for years – a point where I have full confidence in who I am and full faith in all that is. And unexpectedly an enormous amount of joy and fun came from it too!
Everyone around me noticed – my interactions with others has changed a lot – no more neediness towards others, just a desire to empower and love them.
So I was on a real high for several days. No more sleeping pills – I just don’t want or need them anymore – and I’m now slowly cutting back on the other medication too.”

 

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“I thought I’d send you a quick email to let you know how I’m doing after our 3 sessions recently.
I started the ( ) Weight Plan shortly after our sessions and I’ve lost 2 stone in 7 weeks!
It’s a very low calorie diet (600 per day everyday) but I have stuck to it religiously and not strayed once! People around me can’t believe I haven’t binged or had a ‘treat’ but I truly have not strayed and reaped the rewards!
I’ve got another 2 and half stone to lose but feel very positive and cannot believe how well this is going for me.
It’s all down to our sessions so I’d like to thank you very much.”

 

 

 

THE MAGICAL WIGGLY FINGER TECHNIQUE

In a typical first session, the client will sit with their fingers draped over a large tissue box. Hardly high-tech, but very effective. It is in this way that I talk with the client’s unconscious, setting the agenda for the issues to be dealt with. The unconscious tells me which years we need to investigate, where fragments of the client’s soul had been splintered off; it tells me whether we need to check out one or ore past lives; and it guides me to any spirit passengers.

When I explain this process to my clients, some of them – most of them – are dubious about my Wiggly Finger Technique. But afterwards, they have to admit it works extremely well!

If you would like to know more about my blend of hypnotherapy, past life regression, soul retrieval – and Wiggly Fingers – get in touch. Call me on
07597 020 512 or email me on:   judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk .
I’m always happy to have a chat, totally free and totally confidential.

I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex and from The Practice Rooms in Hove, East Sussex.

 

Here, “Angela” shares her experience of the Wiggly Finger Technique: