Getting the Message

Getting the message – it’s a huge topic. Where to start?

As I sat and waited for all the many random thoughts pinging around my head to get into some sort of order and start dripping down the filter into my consciousness – or in this case, into my fingers and onto the computer screen, I was struck by the music I was listening to (vintage Roy Orbison, actually). The full sound came from the main speaker, and then a beautiful section came from the speaker behind my left ear, followed by the answering section from behind my right ear.

And somehow, that clicked. It’s not only what The Big O was singing that mattered, but what I was hearing – and how I interpreted that – which affected my overall experience.

There’s another article to be written about information overload (note to self!) – but here I want to focus on the messages we receive from our parents, teachers and relations in our early years. Do those adults understand, I wonder, the huge effect their words can have on young, sensitive children?

I may be repeating this story, but it shocked me so much it bears telling again. I was in a local convenience store a while back, and a young boy aged around 6 or 7 was looking for a newspaper. The papers were not in a rack, but spread on a shelf almost at floor level, with a large pillar making things even more awkward (clearly newspapers were not a top seller!). As the boy picked up his paper and turned away, so some magazines dropped from the next shelf up. He started to put the magazines back, which was very good of him – but I was horrified to hear what he was saying to himself as he did it:

“You’re so clumsy, you’re always dropping things.”

“Stupid boy, why aren’t you more careful?”

“You can never do things right, can you?”

As I helped him to pick up the magazines that had fallen off the shelf, he looked at me as if he expected another verbal lashing. Instead, I smiled and assured him that everything was fine, it was only a few magazines, he was being very nice by putting them back, no harm was done. He looked confused, then embarrassed, as he left to pay for his paper.

I was left wondering just who had so effectively programmed this young boy that he repeated the phrases parrot-fashion in such a situation. Did they realise the damage they had done? That the boy would carry that programming with him as he grew up?

I have worked with a number of clients recently affected by getting the wrong message – or by being harshly programmed, like this little boy. The teacher who smirks, “well, you’ll never get very far at this rate,” or something similar. The father who never told his daughter she was pretty, and only praised her when she got top grades at school. The mother who told her daughter that men were evil and sex was a painful, horrible chore.  All lay the foundations for problems in the future as the child grows up and faces the dilemma of his / her reality and what he / she has been told.

By going back and finding out where those messages came from, and dealing with them at source, it is possible to free the client from those negative chains and allow them to move forward with a new set of messages that are far more relevant to their particular lives. It can be an emotional, tearful, journey – but getting rid of those outdated, non-serving messages is also hugely empowering.

If you feel that you or someone you know would benefit from releasing old programming, get in touch. Call me on 07597 020 512 or email me on:
judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk . I’m always happy to have a chat, totally free and totally confidential.

I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex.

 

Spirit Release work: World War I commander leads his soldiers home

This is a case study from several years ago, but it was so striking at the time, and is so relevant now, that it bears repeating:

A good friend of mine, of the most spiritual ladies I know,  has some serious health issues, including a crumbling spine and constant pain in her chest. Unbeknown to me, she had decided to take herself off her long-term, heavy pain-killing medication a couple of days before I arrived, so she was not in the best of shape when I arrived.

We agreed that I would work with her with hypnotherapy to control her considerable pain. No sooner had she gone into a beautiful deep state of relaxation than she began talking:
“The mud is everywhere, they never told me it would be like this, where are my men . . . .?” At first I thought that she had slipped into a past life, but it quickly became clear that I was talking to someone in the trenches in Belgium in World War I. This young soldier, who gave his name as Commander George, was only in his mid-twenties, and felt desperately unprepared for the carnage all round him. His men were being killed, they were all knee-high in mud all the time, the stench of gas hung in the air and he was very frightened and confused.

While talking to Commander George, he suddenly said, “I’ve been hit. The bits of metal . . . I’m on the operating table, I see the doctors, they’re taking bits of metal out of my body but it’s no good . . . oh lord, I’m dead, aren’t I?”
Having established that yes, he was indeed dead, I explained that he needed to move to the light, where he belonged. He was adamant that he was not going without his men, who were clearly there with him somewhere. While emphasising how well he had done his duty and praising his bravery, I told him he had to order his men to go to the light too. I invited him to see the pathway, to feel the love and the warmth, and to tell his troops to make their way to the light. Only when they had gone did he agree to go too. As he got closer to the light, he said, “oh my, there’s my mother! There’s my dog!”

When my friend came back from that deep state of relaxation, she was as surprised as I was. She said that she felt Commander George, frightened as he was, scamper like a crab from her chest to her left arm, and it was from there that he went to the light. The troops – she said she counted at least eleven of them – were piled up her spine, and left via the base of her spine down a sort of chute. Touchingly, she said that Commander George’s dog was called Shep, something that she just “knew” but which he had not told me.

The next day my friend told me that, for the first time in ten years, she did not have a pain in her chest, and she could breathe normally. A couple of weeks later she emailed me to say she had had to completely re-learn how to sit in her car because her spine was so much stronger and her posture was improving day by day. More recently she drove to see me, a journey of almost three hours, something that would have been impossible before the session. She got out of the car and bounded around like a spring lamb – I could not believe it was the same person.

As she herself said, if she had gone to a conventional hypnotherapist and Commander George had appeared, the therapist may well not have recognised what was happening or how to deal with the situation. But then, we agreed, Commander George only appeared because he knew that he and his troops were in a safe, secure environment in which to make that all-important journey.

That is spirit release work at its very best, and it was a pleasure and a privilege to facilitate that healing.

If you feel that you, or someone you know, might benefit from some past life work, please get in touch. Call me on 07597 020 512 or email me on:
judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk .
I’m always happy to have a chat, totally free and totally confidential.
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and from The Practice Rooms in Hove, East Sussex.

New success stories

It’s always appreciated when clients take the time and effort to let me know how things are going, either after a session or once the work has finished – the actual healing continues way after the final session, and can take weeks or even months to fully process and settle.

This lovely card arrived in the post a while ago – inside the client had written:
“I saw this card in the local shop and thought of you …. what you have achieved in a short time is amazing ….”

Just a couple of weeks ago a lady sent me a long email the day after a session.
She wrote:  “Thank you so much for our session and the spirit release yesterday … I have finally managed to shed some of the armour I had built up over the years and which eventually had desensitised me ……”

And a client I worked with over a period of several months wrote me a letter (how delightfully old-fashioned is that!) which said:

I’m very pleased to write on behalf of Judy Sharp, who I met in October 2017.

 As soon as I spoke to her on the phone I realized she grasped the problems, which were complex and longstanding.

 Within 3 weeks of starting therapy there had been a marked improvement in my physical symptoms and my confidence. Over the next four months the improvements continued and I was able to cope with situations and events that had previously been impossible.

 Her hypnotherapy has turned my life around and I still put her advice and teaching into practice – and it works.

 I feel a new person and this is obvious to friends and family who see a great change for the better.

I have no hesitation in recommending Judy as a first class hypnotherapist and counsellor.

MGJ                 21st September 2018

If you feel that my special blend of hypnotherapy, past life regression, soul retrieval and other processes may help you, or someone you know, why not get in touch? My mobile number is 07597 020 512. I’m always happy to chat – totally free and totally confidential.
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath in West Sussex.

 

Irrational Fears and Phobias

When I talk about past life regression – which I do, given half a chance – some people’s eyes glaze over, I can almost see their ears closing. Others, fortunately, are much more open to the idea that a wide range of issues in this life may, in fact, have their root cause in a past life.

Irrational fears and phobias are typical examples – and I have had clients come to me with a whole range of phobias! Common ones include fear of flying, heights, water, crowds, dogs and, of course, spiders. Less common but still not unusual are fear of crossing bridges, any form of surgery or needles, having something around the neck and being alone in the dark.

Usually, people find a way of coping with these fears until such time as they interfere with life so much that something has to be done. I worked with a lady last year who had just become a grandmother, and was overjoyed. Unfortunately, her new grandson was on the other side of the world, and she had a severe fear of flying. If she wanted to see her grandson, she would have to overcome that phobia!
The interesting thing about fear of flying is that there are variations on the theme: for some it is take-off and landing, while for others it is not being in control. For this particular client, it was being in an enclosed space and not being able to get out, a sense of being trapped.

The answer was found, as is so often the case, in a past life. In this instance, it was back in the 1600s when the client was a man in India. His life unfolded as a tale of riches to rags to riches as he lost his rich wife (and her dowry), but managed to marry off his eldest daughter to a wealthy merchant. The  man got caught up in an earthquake in Calcutta, and was trapped under the rubble, unable to get out. He was not found, and died there in the rubble.
The negative emotions were released and healed, and the client came back to full consciousness feeling much lighter.

About a month later I received an email from her, to say that she had taken a short flight  “to make sure it worked” and that she had just returned from that all-important first visit to her grandson on the other side of the world: how lovely is that!

This lady had never done any past life work before, but she was open to the idea, and it certainly worked for her! It could work for you too – if you have an irrational fear or phobia that is holding you back from living life to the full, give me a call on 07597 020 512. I’m always happy to chat – it’s totally free, and totally confidential. I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath; from The Practice Rooms in Hove; and from a lovely stand-alone treatment room in Ifield (Crawley).
I look forward to hearing from you!

 

 

 

 

ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

Over all the years I have been working as a therapist, I have come across just about every variation on the theme of “Abusive Relationship”, from children sexually abused by parents and / or other family members to emotional blackmail, verbal abuse and “gaslighting” – where one partner manipulates the other into thinking he / she is going mad.

The two main strands involved in supporting clients who are looking for help in such situations are, first, to get to the real underlying root cause of the issue and, secondly, to encourage the client to re-discover their true self.

Those who have been sexually abused from an early age (and I have known this go on even into adulthood) carry a heavy burden that could typically include shame and embarrassment; anger, rage and hatred; a sense of betrayal, loss of trust and confusion about right and wrong. All of these create a potent cocktail that frequently shows up in the adult as feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem; inability to cultivate healthy relationships and / or appropriate sexual boundaries; a “self-destruct” button and / or self harming.
Different therapists will approach this scenario in their own ways – just one reason why it is important to find a therapist that you are comfortable with before embarking on this healing process.
My approach is typically guide a client through what I call “soul retrieval” – the client’s unconscious will tell me in which years of this life there have been trauma or events that need to be healed. With the client in a deep state of relaxation, and using powerful visualisation techniques, we go back to each year indicated in turn, not to re-live the trauma but to release the negative emotions. My question is never “what happened?” (which triggers the conscious mind) but rather “how is he / she feeling?” which keeps it in the unconscious emotional level. This can be a hugely emotional process as the client finally lets go of all the emotional baggage that has been stuffed down, hidden away for so long, and healing can take place: amazingly cathartic.
Then we can re-build the client, allowing him or her to re-discover their true self, their true power. This in itself is a process of transformation, and I love to see a lighter, brighter, more confident person emerging from the shadows.

Emotional or mental abuse is equally destructive, and gaslighting can destroy someone without them realising what is happening.
Here I work with the client to unravel the tangled roots of the issue back to source. Sometimes this is not as easy as it may seem and may well be somewhat uncomfortable for the client as outdated, inappropriate beliefs and conditioning are dismantled. Relationships may then be seen in a different light; power games recognised for what they are; and different choices may be made, all in a safe, secure environment that builds confidence, self-power and understanding.

If you know someone who may benefit from resolving such issues, do give them my contact numbers – 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512. Or they can get in touch using the form on this website: the messages do reach me, and I do respond!

I am based in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre, also in Haywards Heath. I look forward to hearing from you!

BEEN THERE, DONE THAT ….

We usually buy T-shirts as souvenirs, reminders of happy times in special places.
Sadly, though, we all have other T-shirts: those that are imprinted with all of the programming and put-downs we have received over the years, from parents, teachers and bosses; from lovers and partners; from those in power in “the system”. Careless comments from a trusted teacher can create a wound that oozes insecurity and a sense of not being good enough. Repeated telling off (or worse) from parents invariably create issues that echo through to adult life in the form of anxiety or negativity; fear or perhaps lack of boundaries around appropriate behaviour.

I work with clients to trace the real, underlying root cause of whatever issue brings them to me, be it a fear or phobia or emotional trauma; an abusive relationship or more generalised anxiety. Resolving the issue at source allows the client to take off that restrictive T-shirt and choose a more positive one for the future.
My work is based on hypnotherapy to access the unconscious mind of the client, and it blends past life regression with spirit release and soul retrieval work. Yes, it might sound a bit “out there” – many of my clients say the same thing – but they also say, “Jude, it’s weird, but it works!”

If you know someone who needs a change of T-shirt, give them my numbers, 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512: I’m always happy to have a chat.

DUMP THAT EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE – YOU’LL BE SO GLAD YOU DID!

LIGHTER, BRIGHTER AND MORE POSITIVE – HOW GOOD IS THAT!

We start collecting baggage from an early age, taking on board “stuff” from parents, teachers, lovers, bosses … it piles up, weighing us down, stifling our creativity, trapping our true selves inside cages made of guilt, self-doubt, fear and pain.

Just imagine how much lighter, brighter and more enjoyable life could be if all that baggage could be left behind!

That’s what I help clients to do, and it’s fabulous to see the transformation, to see them come alive as they re-discover who they really are.

One lady, in a deep state of relaxation, went back to the time just after she was born. The very first words this little baby heard her father say were “I didn’t want a girl, I wanted a boy.” She carried that weight throughout her life, until we let it go.

Other clients know that they were not wanted, they were “accidents” – and sometimes their parents tell the child so in no uncertain terms as it grows up. Imagine the weight of that!

Some clients share stories of being abused by parents or relations. Often they carry the shame, guilt, confusion and anger as excess weight or as physical issues. And often they have never been able to talk about it freely. The process of releasing all of that in safe surroundings is hugely cathartic, leaving people lighter, brighter, more confident in themselves, and able to move on with a fresh perspective.

If you know someone who might benefit from letting go of some emotional baggage, please pass on my numbers – 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512. I’m always happy to have a chat, completely free of charge of course, and with no commitment.

Overwhelm … Anxiety … Emotional Trauma

 

 

 

 

 

 

One way or another, these three symptoms feature high with a majority of people who come to see me. It may be one particular event, or an issue that has been going on for years and has reached that point where it just has to be dealt with. Maybe it’s that sense of “something’s come over me” or “I’m not myself” or “I want my old self back” … a phobia that’s holding them back …
My blend of hypnotherapy, regression and other processes has proved very effective in dealing with these kinds of challenges. I always aim to trace back the real underlying root cause of the issue, whatever it may be, and to resolve it at source. That may mean, for instance, locating and releasing old traumas and emotions that have been weighing the client down. It may mean exploring a past life (yes, really) … the work is “out there”, it’s weird – but it works.
If you know someone who might benefit from “lightening the load” emotionally speaking, give them my numbers. I’m always happy to have a chat: 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512.
I’m based in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre, also in Haywards Heath

WHAT’S WEIGHING YOU DOWN?


A few years ago now, I gave a talk at the College of Psychic Studies in London called just that – “What’s Weighing you Down?” I explained that, in my experience, no amount of dieting or even bariatric surgery will work if the underlying emotional root causes of holding on to excess weight have not been addressed.

What are these “underlying emotional causes”? They could be anything from an abusive childhood to bullying at school; from the forced termination of a pregnancy to a stillbirth or loss of a newborn baby. It could be an abusive relationship or rejection by a loved one ….. It is all so painful, we build a wall, a layer of comfort and / or protection. At an unconscious level, some call this the “heart wall”, and that is a good description. But there is equally a physical “wall” – that “spare tyre” around the middle, which just so happens to be where we find the solar plexus, the energy centre of our emotions.

I am not saying that a sensible diet and exercise are not important, they are certainly central to your overall health and wellbeing. But what I am saying is that your mental and emotional wellbeing is just as important, and this can only be tackled through the unconscious.

I have done a lot of work with clients who are holding on to excess weight, and the process is invariably the same: the client is put into a deep state of relaxation, and I talk direct to their unconscious. The root cause is usually a combination of a spirit “passenger” with a sweet tooth or a craving for a particular type of food; a past life in which the client had issues with food, or lack of it, and may even have died of starvation; and any number of emotional traumas in this current lifetime that need to be identified and healed.

If, at the end of those treatments, the client feels that he or she would like to have a hypnotic gastric band fitted (a “belt and braces approach”), then I will do that. The process is not nearly as risky as bariatric surgery; it is non-invasive and it takes just one two-hour session. BUT I will only do that with a client when they have been through the other processes, otherwise we are back to where we came in – “What’s Weighing You Down?”

You could sign up for a gym membership. You could start another fashionable diet.
Or you could look at things in a completely different way and start from the inside out: that way, the issues are resolved once and for all.

Feel free to give me a call – 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512: I’m always happy to have a chat.
I’m based in Haywards Heath, West Sussex and I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre, also in Haywards Heath.

LOST SOMETHING? FROM BITCOIN CODES TO LIBIDO – LET ME HELP YOU FIND IT – IT’S THERE IN YOUR UNCONSCIOUS SOMEWHERE!

We all lose things. Sometimes we need help to find them again, especially if they are a bit more complicated than an umbrella or a pair of gloves.

I help clients find things they have lost by searching in their unconscious.
It’s a matter of tracking back to find the real root cause, and resolving it at source.
That releases the trauma and allows the client to move on, free to enjoy life to the full.

What sort of things have I helped people to find?

Libido, for instance. We found that squashed down and crushed in a past life, and very painful it was too.

Freedom to drive over bridges. That went back to the 1500s and a nasty fall off the castle battlements.

Freedom from a gambling addiction: that was what I call a spirit “passenger” making its influence felt.

There was even a newspaper headline recently saying that Bitcoin investors were turning to hypnosis to try and remember their blockchain codes …. well, if it works for that, it can work for you, too, whatever you’re trying to find!

If you know someone who would benefit from finding something, do give them my numbers:  01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512: I’m always happy to have a chat. Or point them to my website:  www.effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk .

I am based in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre, also in Haywards heath.