Working with past lives
. . . it makes for an interesting session!
This happened recently with a client with whom I had been working on a number of issues. The client – who is able to talk and see normally in this lifetime – slid beautifully into a lovely deep state of relaxation, and I guided her to the door that would lead to the most relevant past life. So far, so good.
She went through the door, closing it gently behind her – and then the challenge began.
I asked her what she was wearing: silence.
I asked if she was indoors or outdoors: silence.
I asked if she was alone: silence.
Usually when a client is in a past life, he or she is able to talk, and all of the senses are fully engaged, so they can touch, smell, see and hear what is going on around them, and tell me all about it. This time there was clearly an issue.
I asked the client to indicate by blinking if she could hear me – blink.
I asked if, in that lifetime, she was dumb – big blink.
Now it became a game of 20 questions with complications. As the therapist – the “question master” – my questions have to be totally open, and not lead or influence the client in any way. But here, the questions also had to be phrased in such a way that the answer was a simple yes or no, indicated by a blink.
Slowly, patiently – and with considerable guidance from my helpers I have to say – the picture emerged. Here was a woman in her 60s, a princess who was unable to speak (and, we understood later, was unable to see either). Her father the king had recently conquered neighbouring land and, as a means of “legitimising” his land grab, married his spinster daughter to the young king whose lands had been taken. The day after the wedding, the young king killed his bride by hanging her with a noose and stabbing her with a large knife. Not a happy ending to what must have been a tough life back in the 1300s.
However, the princess had found some joy with horses, with whom she clearly had a special affinity. She had had a child by the man who looked after the horses, a daughter who saw her mother being killed in such a brutal way.
The story resonated at so many levels: the affinity with horses has been carried forward to this lifetime: the mother / daughter relationship has been reversed; and much more.
When the client came back from her experience – and was once more able to talk – she was astonished. “How did you know what questions to ask?” she asked. “It’s to do with 25 years’ experience, a mass of grey hair and a lot of help from my unseen friends,” I said . . .
From the client’s point of view, despite the handicap, it was an illuminating experience in many ways. It explained her fear of having anything around her neck – scarves, ties etc – and nightmares about a noose; ditto her fear of knives. She said that even in her kitchen she can only have out the one knife she is working with, and is wary of that! In addition, family dynamics, her love of horses, learning to speak her truth – the list went on.
As the client discovered, being in a past life that has restrictions of any kind can be very frustrating. The person in that lifetime wants to say, “no, silly, you’re barking up the wrong tree, you’re asking all the wrong questions!” – but can’t, even if she could have spoken because the person in the past lifetime can only answer questions and give descriptions – responsive rather than proactive.
I love past life work, especially when it brings such a big bucketful of insights and “ah ha” moments – even if it does mean pulling out all the stops to get there!