Irrational Fears and Phobias

When I talk about past life regression – which I do, given half a chance – some people’s eyes glaze over, I can almost see their ears closing. Others, fortunately, are much more open to the idea that a wide range of issues in this life may, in fact, have their root cause in a past life.

Irrational fears and phobias are typical examples – and I have had clients come to me with a whole range of phobias! Common ones include fear of flying, heights, water, crowds, dogs and, of course, spiders. Less common but still not unusual are fear of crossing bridges, any form of surgery or needles, having something around the neck and being alone in the dark.

Usually, people find a way of coping with these fears until such time as they interfere with life so much that something has to be done. I worked with a lady last year who had just become a grandmother, and was overjoyed. Unfortunately, her new grandson was on the other side of the world, and she had a severe fear of flying. If she wanted to see her grandson, she would have to overcome that phobia!
The interesting thing about fear of flying is that there are variations on the theme: for some it is take-off and landing, while for others it is not being in control. For this particular client, it was being in an enclosed space and not being able to get out, a sense of being trapped.

The answer was found, as is so often the case, in a past life. In this instance, it was back in the 1600s when the client was a man in India. His life unfolded as a tale of riches to rags to riches as he lost his rich wife (and her dowry), but managed to marry off his eldest daughter to a wealthy merchant. The  man got caught up in an earthquake in Calcutta, and was trapped under the rubble, unable to get out. He was not found, and died there in the rubble.
The negative emotions were released and healed, and the client came back to full consciousness feeling much lighter.

About a month later I received an email from her, to say that she had taken a short flight  “to make sure it worked” and that she had just returned from that all-important first visit to her grandson on the other side of the world: how lovely is that!

This lady had never done any past life work before, but she was open to the idea, and it certainly worked for her! It could work for you too – if you have an irrational fear or phobia that is holding you back from living life to the full, give me a call on 07597 020 512. I’m always happy to chat – it’s totally free, and totally confidential. I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath; from The Practice Rooms in Hove; and from a lovely stand-alone treatment room in Ifield (Crawley).
I look forward to hearing from you!

 

 

 

 

ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

Over all the years I have been working as a therapist, I have come across just about every variation on the theme of “Abusive Relationship”, from children sexually abused by parents and / or other family members to emotional blackmail, verbal abuse and “gaslighting” – where one partner manipulates the other into thinking he / she is going mad.

The two main strands involved in supporting clients who are looking for help in such situations are, first, to get to the real underlying root cause of the issue and, secondly, to encourage the client to re-discover their true self.

Those who have been sexually abused from an early age (and I have known this go on even into adulthood) carry a heavy burden that could typically include shame and embarrassment; anger, rage and hatred; a sense of betrayal, loss of trust and confusion about right and wrong. All of these create a potent cocktail that frequently shows up in the adult as feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem; inability to cultivate healthy relationships and / or appropriate sexual boundaries; a “self-destruct” button and / or self harming.
Different therapists will approach this scenario in their own ways – just one reason why it is important to find a therapist that you are comfortable with before embarking on this healing process.
My approach is typically guide a client through what I call “soul retrieval” – the client’s unconscious will tell me in which years of this life there have been trauma or events that need to be healed. With the client in a deep state of relaxation, and using powerful visualisation techniques, we go back to each year indicated in turn, not to re-live the trauma but to release the negative emotions. My question is never “what happened?” (which triggers the conscious mind) but rather “how is he / she feeling?” which keeps it in the unconscious emotional level. This can be a hugely emotional process as the client finally lets go of all the emotional baggage that has been stuffed down, hidden away for so long, and healing can take place: amazingly cathartic.
Then we can re-build the client, allowing him or her to re-discover their true self, their true power. This in itself is a process of transformation, and I love to see a lighter, brighter, more confident person emerging from the shadows.

Emotional or mental abuse is equally destructive, and gaslighting can destroy someone without them realising what is happening.
Here I work with the client to unravel the tangled roots of the issue back to source. Sometimes this is not as easy as it may seem and may well be somewhat uncomfortable for the client as outdated, inappropriate beliefs and conditioning are dismantled. Relationships may then be seen in a different light; power games recognised for what they are; and different choices may be made, all in a safe, secure environment that builds confidence, self-power and understanding.

If you know someone who may benefit from resolving such issues, do give them my contact numbers – 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512. Or they can get in touch using the form on this website: the messages do reach me, and I do respond!

I am based in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre, also in Haywards Heath. I look forward to hearing from you!

BEEN THERE, DONE THAT ….

We usually buy T-shirts as souvenirs, reminders of happy times in special places.
Sadly, though, we all have other T-shirts: those that are imprinted with all of the programming and put-downs we have received over the years, from parents, teachers and bosses; from lovers and partners; from those in power in “the system”. Careless comments from a trusted teacher can create a wound that oozes insecurity and a sense of not being good enough. Repeated telling off (or worse) from parents invariably create issues that echo through to adult life in the form of anxiety or negativity; fear or perhaps lack of boundaries around appropriate behaviour.

I work with clients to trace the real, underlying root cause of whatever issue brings them to me, be it a fear or phobia or emotional trauma; an abusive relationship or more generalised anxiety. Resolving the issue at source allows the client to take off that restrictive T-shirt and choose a more positive one for the future.
My work is based on hypnotherapy to access the unconscious mind of the client, and it blends past life regression with spirit release and soul retrieval work. Yes, it might sound a bit “out there” – many of my clients say the same thing – but they also say, “Jude, it’s weird, but it works!”

If you know someone who needs a change of T-shirt, give them my numbers, 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512: I’m always happy to have a chat.

Overwhelm … Anxiety … Emotional Trauma

 

 

 

 

 

 

One way or another, these three symptoms feature high with a majority of people who come to see me. It may be one particular event, or an issue that has been going on for years and has reached that point where it just has to be dealt with. Maybe it’s that sense of “something’s come over me” or “I’m not myself” or “I want my old self back” … a phobia that’s holding them back …
My blend of hypnotherapy, regression and other processes has proved very effective in dealing with these kinds of challenges. I always aim to trace back the real underlying root cause of the issue, whatever it may be, and to resolve it at source. That may mean, for instance, locating and releasing old traumas and emotions that have been weighing the client down. It may mean exploring a past life (yes, really) … the work is “out there”, it’s weird – but it works.
If you know someone who might benefit from “lightening the load” emotionally speaking, give them my numbers. I’m always happy to have a chat: 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512.
I’m based in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre, also in Haywards Heath

LOST SOMETHING? FROM BITCOIN CODES TO LIBIDO – LET ME HELP YOU FIND IT – IT’S THERE IN YOUR UNCONSCIOUS SOMEWHERE!

We all lose things. Sometimes we need help to find them again, especially if they are a bit more complicated than an umbrella or a pair of gloves.

I help clients find things they have lost by searching in their unconscious.
It’s a matter of tracking back to find the real root cause, and resolving it at source.
That releases the trauma and allows the client to move on, free to enjoy life to the full.

What sort of things have I helped people to find?

Libido, for instance. We found that squashed down and crushed in a past life, and very painful it was too.

Freedom to drive over bridges. That went back to the We1500s and a nasty fall off the castle battlements.

Freedom from a gambling addiction: that was what I call a spirit “passenger” making its influence felt.

There was even a newspaper headline recently saying that Bitcoin investors were turning to hypnosis to try and remember their blockchain codes …. well, if it works for that, it can work for you, too, whatever you’re trying to find!

If you know someone who would benefit from finding something, do give them my numbers:  01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512: I’m always happy to have a chat. Or point them to my website:  www.effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk .

I am based in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre, also in Haywards heath.

DO YOU KNOW AN EMOTIONAL VOLCANO?

Someone weighed down by too much stress, emotional trauma or anxiety is like a volcano. They may seem perfectly calm on the outside, while inside issues and emotions are building up to boiling point. Very often it only takes a minor “something” to trigger the eruption, when all of that pent-up frustration, anger, resentment or even fear suddenly overflows, spilling onto everyone around, leaving a trail of emotional destruction in its wake.
“Where did that come from?”
“What’s the matter with her?”
“What did I say?”

I have been working recently with a number of people who have reached “eruption point” and who are seeking not only a controlled outlet for their emotions, but also to understand the real root cause for that build-up. Sometimes it’s obvious – childhood abuse, bullying at school and / or the workplace and / or in relationships – sometimes it goes back much further.

Whatever and wherever the real root cause, I work with the client to trace it back, and then we resolve and heal all the issues at source. The client has offloaded, once and for all, that heavy emotional baggage that was likely to erupt at any time, leaving them lighter, brighter, and able to move on with their lives.

If someone you know is an emotional volcano, give them my contact details. I am always happy to have a chat – no charge, no obligation – very often just talking to an independent someone is a great help.
My numbers are 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512, and my email is: judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk.
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre, Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and from The Practice Rooms, Hove, East Sussex.