AND THE WINNER IS …… ANXIETY, EVERY TIME

Whenever I check the stats for what people search for when looking for a therapist, Anxiety is always there at the top of the pile. Even before the extraordinary situation created by Covid-19, it was always Number One, so now it has a clear head and shoulders lead over Stress, Trauma, relationship problems and so on. Why?

Well, for one thing it is a general term that embraces various issues. It’s a word that is thrown around lightly, it’s an “alright” thing to have, it’s accepted and (sort of) understood.

The NHS defines anxiety as “a state of unease, such as worry or fear,  that may be mild or severe, ”
It is perfectly normal – and healthy – to feel anxious at certain times. This goes back to the old “fight or flight” syndrome of stone-age man. When coming face-to-face with a hungry lion, the man had to make a choice – stay and fight the beast, or run. The chemical process triggered in the body in the split seconds it took him to make his decision has been clearly identified, and involves the amygdala, at the back of the brain. At the first sign of danger, it releases adrenalin, a chemical that puts certain systems on high alert. It also shuts down systems that are not so important: stone age man would not have been aware of being hungry or wanting to have a pee when faced with a hungry lion. All resources are pumped to the brain, the muscles, the heart and the senses.
Once the crisis is over – when stone-age man has killed the lion or escaped from its clutches, the flow of adrenalin is stopped, and the systems return to normal.
A touch of adrenalin is a good thing – it gives us that “edge” before we make a presentation, or have an interview or take a driving test. But prolonged adrenalin is like driving a car with the choke out all the time (those of you too young to remember cars with chokes, go Google it!). There is too much “juice” getting in to the system, it’s working on overdrive, and that is not healthy.
Too much adrenalin in a system is like too much petrol in an engine – it floods!

There are many factors in our normal everyday life that may cause anxiety – work, financial worries, relationship, kids, moving house, death of a loved one  to name but a few. Add into the mix the shadow of Covid-19 and the many implications of that, and there is a perfect storm. People are either rushed off their feet at work on the frontline, in highly-stressed situations, or are stuck at home unable to work, with time and space to think about all the things that might go wrong.
The news is full of horror stories, numbers of death and people suffering: the levels of fear and panic are stirred up constantly.

In all of my work, I seek to trace back the real, underlying root cause of an issue and resolve it at source. A client’s irrational, ongoing anxiety may be the result of an incident or a trauma in their early childhood – or perhaps even much earlier, in a previous life (that is far more common than you may think). It may stem from a set of circumstances that, to the client at least, cannot be changed, leaving him or her powerless.

In exploring the client’s perspective of the situation and the wider world, i can help the client to uncover the  cause of the anxiety if it is a “this lifetime” root.
This may be done by creating a safe space for the client to “download” all the “stuff” that has been building up inside – all the “what if …?” scenarios, the fears, the insecurities and so on.
Or, perhaps some hypnotherapy and past life regression may be more effective, to explore the unconscious levels of the mind and see what is being held there.

Long-term anxiety can be debilitating and exhausting, and can have a serious impact on someone’s quality of life and well-being.
Uncovering the real underlying root cause and resolving the issue at source allows that person to get on with his or her life.

If you would like to have an initial chat about this, or any other aspect of my work, please do not hesitate to get in touch. An initial chat is totally free and there is no commitment at all. My home number is 01444 459 433 and my mobile is 07597 020 512.
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex and appropriate measures are now in place to meet all the Covid-19 requirements.

 

 

COPING IN LOCKDOWN – AND COMING OUT OF LOCKDOWN

These past few months have been challenging at every level, in so many ways.
The usual routine has been turned on its head, individuals and families have had to adapt to completely new ways of co-existing. While for some this has been a time to press the “pause” button and think about a different way of living and working in the future, for others it has been highly stressful.

Couples who normally had distractions of work, gym, hobbies, nights out with the boys / girls, suddenly find themselves spending far more time together, with no distractions. If there were little cracks in the relationship, Lockdown could well have ripped them wide open. If there were issues that had been swept under the carpet – the carpet was whipped away, leave bare floorboards and piles of “stuff” to be dealt with. With nowhere to hide, couples had a choice – retreat to their respective corners and draw a line to divide them, or try and resolve the various issues that came to the surface. Sadly, for some, it resulted in abuse too: calls to the various emergency help lines have soared during this period.

For some people, then, Lockdown has been a time of being locked in with someone they would not choose to spend so much time with.
For others, it has been a time of being locked in with no access to the one person they would want to be with, including those having affairs.

And for yet others, it has meant being lonely as well as alone. Many people who live on their own rely on their jobs or their keep-fit classes or similar regular activities to provide the social interaction we all need. When confined to their homes – often small flats with little or no green space around – their four walls can seem like a prison.    Anxiety, fed by news reports on the TV and in  newspapers, can rise to panic proportions. The individual can be knocked off balance and, in that state, fear can take over. Deprived of human interaction, such people can easily slide into the big black hole of depression, hiding away as the world seems an ever-darker, more dangerous place.

For all of these people – the couples and the singles – the return to whatever may pass for normality is going to be a rocky road. It is not possible to “just go back the way it was” because too much water has passed under the proverbial bridge. It can need time and support to identify the issues and deal with them in a calm, logical, constructive way.

If you feel that I can help you with any of that, give me a call – my home number is 01444 459 433 and my mobile is 07597 020 512.
My email is:    judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk .
An initial call is totally free, with absolutely no commitment.

 

 

 

 

BACK TO WORK: FACE-TO-FACE SESSIONS ALLOWED FROM 4th JULY

Great news! Both of my professional bodies, CNHC and GHR, have confirmed that face-to-face sessions are permitted as from 4th July.
I shall be starting work again on Monday 6th July, from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex. Vinings is a very homely place with just four treatment rooms and a very friendly atmosphere. It has had a deep clean and new measures are in place to comply with the new Covid regulations.

If you feel that my blend of hypnotherapy and past life regression may help you with issues that might have surfaced during lockdown, get in touch.
Perhaps you would welcome a safe, secure space in which to “download”, let go of stuff that has been building up to boiling up? It can make such a difference to have an experienced someone listen – really listen – someone who is not in that “friends and family” circle, someone with no agenda, who is not going to judge but who can perhaps look from a different perspective.

I’m always happy to have an initial chat, totally free of charge, and with no commitment at all. My home number is 01444 459 433 and my mobile is 07597 020 512.

Coping with Coronavirus Confinement

When all is well in our lives – when there is financial security: everyone is healthy: and we can come and go as we please – then it is very easy to “paper over the cracks”, to ignore those pressure points in a relationship.

When all is not well, the pressure builds and the cracks become very obvious.
In this current situation when we all have to stay at home, when couples – and families – are being forced to spend more time together than they usually do – we have all the ingredients for a storm.

“Out there” there is an atmosphere of anxiety and fear, not helped by the media and their screaming panic-peddling headlines. The energy is heavy, oppressive and negative – it’s a good job the sun is shining (as I write this at least!) – that helps to lift the spirits.

Nowadays our lives are very full – stress and deadlines at work; children have their own social agendas that need to be organised; running the household is a job in itself. Shopping, socialising, sport – it all fills up our waking hours. And much of it serves as a distraction from looking at what’s going on inside ourselves, from listening to that little voice that begs to be heard.

Those who now have time on their hands might find it increasingly uncomfortable. They will call it boring, they will say they are stifled, frustrated and so on – but perhaps they don’t like the idea of having to sit with themselves. To those people, I would say, “what is it that you are finding uncomfortable? What is it that wants to be heard?” And perhaps more important, “what are you going to do about it?”

This whole situation marks a massive energy shift, a huge change, and things will not go back to the way they were. It is an opportunity to work with ourselves, to look at who we are and, more importantly, who we would like to be. It can be an uncomfortable process, peeling that emotional onion, taking off the layers of pretence and show to discover the real you underneath. But as uncomfortable as it is, it is also enormously empowering, and stepping into the power of the true you gives you a new-found confidence and self-awareness that does not come from designer business outfits or a new drop-top car; from alcohol or drugs.

For those who are forced into spending more time than usual with a partner, the situation is equally challenging. Little cracks in a relationship can so easily become gaping chasms. Minor irritations grow into major issues. If you are sensitive, empathic or intuitive, this will be more likely, as you will be picking up on “stuff” that is flying around you.
This could be a very good opportunity to take time and discuss those issues that keep coming up but that keep being shelved because there is never time or space to do them justice. Keep it polite. Don’t bring up issues from years ago unless they are really relevant. Keep emotion out of it – stick to the facts. Don’t just hurl random accusations – back up your statements with examples. Listen. Really listen. Don’t talk over the other person. We are all allowed one walk a day – use it wisely! Go for a walk in the park, get some fresh air, blow away the cobwebs, talk about what is troubling you.

Confinement can bring people together or it can drive them apart: recognise the opportunity for what it is and use it wisely.