WHAT’S WEIGHING YOU DOWN?


A few years ago now, I gave a talk at the College of Psychic Studies in London called just that – “What’s Weighing you Down?” I explained that, in my experience, no amount of dieting or even bariatric surgery will work if the underlying emotional root causes of holding on to excess weight have not been addressed.

What are these “underlying emotional causes”? They could be anything from an abusive childhood to bullying at school; from the forced termination of a pregnancy to a stillbirth or loss of a newborn baby. It could be an abusive relationship or rejection by a loved one ….. It is all so painful, we build a wall, a layer of comfort and / or protection. At an unconscious level, some call this the “heart wall”, and that is a good description. But there is equally a physical “wall” – that “spare tyre” around the middle, which just so happens to be where we find the solar plexus, the energy centre of our emotions.

I am not saying that a sensible diet and exercise are not important, they are certainly central to your overall health and wellbeing. But what I am saying is that your mental and emotional wellbeing is just as important, and this can only be tackled through the unconscious.

I have done a lot of work with clients who are holding on to excess weight, and the process is invariably the same: the client is put into a deep state of relaxation, and I talk direct to their unconscious. The root cause is usually a combination of a spirit “passenger” with a sweet tooth or a craving for a particular type of food; a past life in which the client had issues with food, or lack of it, and may even have died of starvation; and any number of emotional traumas in this current lifetime that need to be identified and healed.

If, at the end of those treatments, the client feels that he or she would like to have a hypnotic gastric band fitted (a “belt and braces approach”), then I will do that. The process is not nearly as risky as bariatric surgery; it is non-invasive and it takes just one two-hour session. BUT I will only do that with a client when they have been through the other processes, otherwise we are back to where we came in – “What’s Weighing You Down?”

You could sign up for a gym membership. You could start another fashionable diet.
Or you could look at things in a completely different way and start from the inside out: that way, the issues are resolved once and for all.

Feel free to give me a call – 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512: I’m always happy to have a chat.
I’m based in Haywards Heath, West Sussex and I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre, also in Haywards Heath.

Weight Loss and Hypnotic Gastric Banding: an overview

red apple, inches tape measureI am often asked about the way in which I work with clients who want to get rid of excess weight, and also about hypnotic gastric banding. You can read more in the Weight Loss section on the site, but here is a 5-page report that gives you a good overview to what it’s all about. If you have any more questions, do feel free to call me on 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512: I’m always happy to chat about it and explain anything that isn’t quite clear.
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Over-Eating and Hypnotherapy

green apple and tape measureIt is not easy to get away from food in today’s media-driven world.
Just look at how many programmes there are on TV dedicated to putting food in front of you on the screen for hours each week. Never mind if the dishes being prepared are gluten-free, dairy-free, meat-free salads or desserts designed to send calories and cholesterol into orbit – for those with a weakness for food, it is a trigger.
Every newspaper and whole magazines are dedicated to persuading us to eat even more.
Please don’t get me started on supermarkets and their marketing tricks.
Or the obscene amounts of hidden sugar in processed foods (why is there sugar in a quiche lorraine, I wonder?).

So on the one hand we are being bombarded with food  and advice on what is good for us (which changes like the wind) – and  on the other hand we are told that we have to be stick-insect thin, verging on anorexic. Only these waif-like creatures are socially acceptable, it seems. People who are any more than “chubby” are mocked and considered to be social outcasts.
People are treated like criminals when they become addicted to the substances they have been over-exposed to. Like any addictive substance – and why else do manufacturers put so much sugar and salt into processed food if not to get consumers addicted and coming back for more – bad food habits can be hard to break. But it can be done. And, I believe, it is not always to do with actual food consumption.

Yes, there are definite issues to do with a sedentary lifestyle – people no longer walk to work, or do so much physical work or Hamburgerexercise. Nowadays people commute (sitting down) and sit at desks and then collapse on the sofa to unwind in front of the tele when they get home (more often than not with a ready meal on their laps).  It would do us all good to walk more, swim more, jog more – but I believe the over-eating, holding on to weight issue is more complex than that.

There can be many underlying emotional reasons why people hold on to weight – everything from abuse in childhood to bullying in school; forced abortions or traumatic childbirth to bitter relationship break-ups. Getting to the root cause – the real root cause – may involve peeling that emotional onion and re-discovering the true person inside, the one whose self-esteem has plummeted, who believes they are not good enough any more.

Then of course there is the Catch-22 of bariatric surgery – which you only need if you are seriously obese, but very often can’t have because, being obese, your heart won’t stand the strain of the anaesthetic and the trauma of the operation. Hypnotic gastric banding is always an option there.

If you would like to tackle the excess weight that you are holding on to, give me a call now on 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512. I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and I am happy to have a chat to see how I might be able to help you.

Weight Loss Surgery – and Hypnotic Gastric Banding

red apple, inches tape measureAnother day, another article in the press about bariatric surgery – the umbrella term for weight loss surgery. This prompted me to refer to the UK official NHS website for their latest guidelines on weight loss surgery: it made interesting reading.

There is a lot of information about what the various surgical procedures are – gastric bypass, gastric band, sleeve gastrectomy – risks, results, “life after weight loss surgery” and so on.

An NHS Psychological Assessment will determine whether:
you have any mental health conditions or emotional problems that could prevent you sticking to your lifestyle plan after surgery
you’ve developed unhealthy patterns of eating, such as binge eating, that could cause problems after surgery
you have realistic expectations of what life will be like after surgery.

Nowhere, as far as I could see from the NHS website, does it offer any advice or suggestions about addressing any of these issues prior to surgery.

Under the heading “Psychosocial effects of (weight loss) surgery” , it states:
“It’s also common for a person to experience a worsening of mood when their weight stabilises, typically two years after surgery. This is often because many people realise that problems that existed before surgery, such as money worries or difficulties at work, are still there.”

I am not denying that bariatric surgery can, and has, helped a lot of people. But my point is that, without addressing the underlying emotional reasons / issues that cause someone to hold onto that excess weight in the first place, it is like putting a sticking plaster over a festering wound and expecting to wound to heal all by itself: it’s not going to happen.

I have worked with lots of clients who have been holding onto varying amounts of excess weight. One of the these was a white feet on scaleslovely lady who weighed around 23 stone when she came to see me. She had been through the full NHS programme leading up to bariatric surgery, and had done all that was asked of her. When the time came, she was refused surgery because she was still too obese. This is the classic Catch 22, isn’t it – someone needs surgery because they are obese, and yet because they are obese, they can’t have surgery due to the risk to their heart with the anaesthetic and stress to the system. I worked with this lady for a few months, as we peeled the layers off the emotional onion, getting closer and closer to the real person at the core. Many issues were dealt with along the way. She laughed, she cried, she uncovered “stuff” that had been locked away for years and years. There is no magic wand here; she did not lose 10 stone in a couple of months. But her whole persona changed. She re-discovered who she really was, and she liked that person very much. With her new-found confidence, she re-joined her slimming club and was frequently Slimmer of the Week and Slimmer of the Month. She changed her eating habits and the food she cooked for her family – and they all enjoyed the new way of eating! Did she have a hypnotic gastric band fitted? No, because she no longer felt the need for one.

People hold on to excess weight for many reasons: abuse in childhood or bullying at school; a broken relationship or loss of a loved one; even termination of a pregnancy or a baby lost at childbirth. The weight is used as protection or comfort or both. There is a particular logic I have repeatedly come across in women that runs as follows: when I was slim, I was attractive, and I attracted a man. That man hurt me. I don’t want to be hurt any more, so I will make myself less attractive, then I won’t attract another man.

I use a blend of clinical hypnotherapy, past life regression, spirit release and soul retrieval work to get to the real root causes of holding on to excess weight. Many of the clients who come to see me have only ever come across these concepts on my website or when they have talked to me. They frequently say, “Jude, this is all a bit out there.” It probably is to them, but to me it is totally normal, and the results speak for themselves. We find past lives where they have starved to death, and have passed with the thought, “I will never go hungry again.” We find spirit “passengers” with a sweet tooth – once they have been moved on, the obsession for cakes and biscuits vanishes. We uncover the trail of trauma and events that have caused fragments of the soul to split off and be stuck in time: we find these fragments, we leave behind all of the negative emotions and bring them home. We talk with the excess weight and find out how it’s feeling: angry? fed up? bored? We find out what we need to do to help it shift. We thank it for doing its job so well, and we give it permission to leave. Does that all sound whacky to you? Probably. But it works.

And then – only then, when the festering wounds have been completely cleared out, cleansed and healed – will I talk with the client about a hypnotic gastric band. If he or she still wants one, that’s fine, it can be done. Without invasive surgery, without anaesthetic, and without any if the risks listed on the NHS website such as internal bleeding, a blood clot inside the leg (Deep vein thrombosis) or a blood clot or other blockage in the lungs (pulmonary embolism).

If you are holding on to excess weight and if you feel the time has come to tackle it, give me a call on 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512. I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre, Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and I would be happy to talk through any aspects of weight loss.

Weight Loss – get to the real root cause

red apple, inches tape measureObesity is, if you’ll forgive the pun, a growing problem in this country. Depending on which reports you read, up to 70% of us are clinically overweight, while more than 40% of us would be classified as obese.

There is a huge media-driven paradox about weight. On the one hand, everywhere you look, there is food – whole shelves of magazines dedicated to it, TV programmes and overnight celebrities and, of course, advertisements to tempt us to “treat yourselves” or “enjoy”. And on the other hand, there is an exaggerated obsession with being slim to the point of skeletal.
No wonder, then, that many people are confused about what they should eat, what is good and what isn’t. It is perfectly possible to read an article explaining why sugar and dairy products are bad for you, then switch on the TV and see people making meringues or cream-filled cakes!

I totally understand that diet is important, and so is exercise – nobody is going to lose weight if they eat processed food and don’t do any exercise at all. Equally “yo-yo” dieting is a “no-go” , as it confuses the body into adopting a starvation mode and holding on to whatever food it can.

My approach to weight loss is to help the client to uncover the emotional root causes – why are they holding on to excess weight? In my experience, it could be one of many reasons, from childhood abuse to bullying at school; from miscarriage or still-birth to a painful relationship split. The excess weight could be protection or comfort – but when it gets out of control, or when it is no longer needed or appropriate, then we need to let it go. It is quite common to find that people who have an obsession with food in this life have starved to death in a previous life, and have “carried forward” the thought “I will never go hungry again”.
I worked with a young lady last year who wanted to get rid of her excess weight. By her own admission, her diet was dreadful, but she could not stop thinking about food. In the first session we did some spirit release work after which she completely lost her craving for cakes, biscuits and sweets – she had been feeding a “passenger” with a sweet tooth! In a past life session, yes she had starved to death, so we resolved that too. By the time we had finished, her workmates were commenting on how well she looked – but most importantly, she had re-discovered her true self, and had taken back control of her life and her eating habits.
Another lady I worked with said she had tried every diet in the book and then some! She had gone through the menopause, that had only made things worse, the weight would not shift. We talked about her life and it emerged that she had lost two babies at birth. To me that was a key issue, and sure enough when we explored that at soul level, then was a huge amount of guilt and grief to be dealt with. After many tears and much deep healing, the change in the client was clearly visible. After several sessions, she too had re-connected with her true self, better placed to cope with current challenges – and without the excess weight that no longer served her.
I will fit a hypnotic gastric band if the client and I feel that it is necessary. Quite often, even those clients who arrive determined to have one decide that they don’t need it after all – and that’s fine by me too! You’ll find more about hypnotic gastric banding elsewhere on this site, and more about me too.
I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre in Haywards Heath, West Sussex, and I’m always happy to talk to potential clients before they commit to working with me: feel free to give me a call on 01444 459 433 or 07597 020 512.

A Hypnotic Gastric Band : how does that work?

HYPNOTIC GASTRIC BANDING – WHAT, WHY, HOW?

Screen shot 2013-10-21 at 12.25.00 PMBefore describing the process of “fitting” a hypnotic gastric band, I would like to briefly outline the benefits.

1.  there is no actual invasive surgery. In a bizarre Catch 22 situation, it is only obese people who need a gastric band fitted – and yet so often they are refused bariatric surgery precisely because they are obese, and therefore there are risks associated with the anaesthetic. A hypnotic gastric band poses no such dangers.

2.  there are very real risks associated with both gastric band and gastric by-pass surgery. Official NHS figures quote 2 in 100 people die as a direct result of bariatric gastric banding and the figure is even higher for gastric by-pass surgery. There are no such risks with hypnotic gastric banding.

3.  it is simple, it is painless, there is no long preparation process or in-patient stay. It is one session in a comfortable treatment room.

4.  it is much cheaper than having a surgical gastric band fitted privately. A local private clinic is currently charging almost £6,500 for the procedure: with me, a gastric band is “fitted” as the conclusion to a programme of three other sessions. The cost of all four sessions – assuming the gastric band is “fitted” – would be just under £500.

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When a client comes to see me asking to have a gastric band fitted, I turn things on their head. Before “fitting” a gastric band, I will work with the client to uncover the real reasons why the client is holding onto that excess weight. In my experience, it can be due to a number of reasons: abuse in childhood; bullying at school; a particularly painful relationship split-up; the forced termination of a pregnancy; the loss of a baby at childbirth or at an early age, and more.  Over the first three sessions, we will explore spirit “passengers” (is the client feeding a spirit with a sweet tooth, perhaps?); past lives (did the client starve to death in one or more past lives?); and we will “bring home” those parts that may have split off and be stuck in time through trauma in this lifetime. If that all sounds a bit strange, I understand, but trust me – it is tried and tested, and although it may be a bit weird, it certainly works! After all of that has been done, it is often the case that the client feels so much better – lighter, brighter, more comfortable with themselves and so on – that he / she decides not to have a gastric band after all, and that is perfectly OK by me.

If the decision is to go ahead, then it is one more session like the others. I will put the client into a lovely deep state of relaxation, and then talk them through the whole process, from being in a private room at a private clinic and having a briefing with the surgeon through the pre-med and anaesthetic; through the actual procedure and back into their room where they wake up feeling wonderful. Then there are some strong suggestions relating to new instructions to the unconscious about the fact that the gastric band is now in place, what it means and what the outcomes will be.

What a gastric band actually does is to create a “smaller stomach” – imagine your stomach going from an 0 to an 8 with a smaller portion at the top. The gastric band – actually a hollow tube that can be filled with liquid to tighten it if need be, or have the liquid taken out to loosen it – creates a smaller stomach so that the person feels fuller sooner. Food is taken in as usual, and is processed through the stomach into the intestines in the normal way, which is important as the body is able to absorb the nutrients (not so with a by-pass).  With a smaller intake of food – and, we hope, a sensible diet – the client loses weight at a slow, steady rate that the body can cope with, rather than a drastic weight loss that can lead to rolls of unhealthy, unsightly flab which often results in another surgical operation to remove it.

If you are considering having a gastric band “fitted”, or just want to talk about shifting some of that weight that you’ve been holding on to for far too long – call me on 07597 020 512 and let’s have a chat.

 

 

College of Psychic Studies magazine feature about my work

The Spring 2015 edition of “Light”, the magazine of the College of Psychic Studies, included an article written by me about the way in which I mix elements of hypnotherapy, past lives and spirit release therapy when I am working with clients.

The magazine surfaced recently from under a pile of papers, and I thought I would share the article with you – click on the link below.

Judy’s article in Light magazine

Hypnotic Gastric Banding – a case study

A lady came to see me recently to enquire about losing weight – let’s call her Angela. In her mid-50s, she was happily married, had a good job and enjoyed life to the full. Her hobbies included eating out and entertaining – and therein lay the problem! Angela loved food and found it very hard to lose weight. She recognised that, as the years pass, it is more difficult to shed those extra pounds, and was determined to do something about it. She had tried various diets with differing degrees of success and took regular exercise in the form of walking.

Investigations and conversations with Angela’s unconscious revealed a number of traumas in her life, but no past life issues to be dealt with. These current-life traumas were dealt with in a separate, very emotional session (see separate post on Soul Retrieval), as the parts of her that had been left behind were found and brought back into the fold, into the warmth of the heart. In this way, Angela became “whole” again.

The “operation” went very well, and this was followed with strong suggestions that Angela would eat less and eat more slowly, while still enjoying her food and eating enough for her body to remain healthy.

After each session, Angela reported having a really good night’s sleep and feeling refreshed and rejuvenated. In the first week after the “operation” she lost 6 pounds, and a steady, healthy rate of weight loss continues. When I saw her earlier this week, she was positively glowing and looking great!

A hypnotic gastric band is not for someone who just wants to lose a couple of pounds, or eats too many bars of chocolate.
In the first session, I always go through the client’s medical history and, where I feel it appropriate, I will ask permission to discuss the situation with the client’s medical professional. But for people like Angela, who are otherwise healthy, with no issues with blood pressure and so on, it is a great option. A local private hospital charges around £5,000 for a physical gastric band operation – a surgical procedure that does not take any account of emotional or past life issues that may be responsible for the patient holding onto weight. I charge £495 as a package price to include all of the sessions and the actual “operation” – in Angela’s case it was three sessions, but it can sometimes run to four or even five, depending on the issues to be cleared prior to the “operation”.

What’s Weighing You Down – College of Psychic Studies talk tomorrow

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I’m really looking forward to giving a talk tomorrow about my “weird but it works” way of looking at why people hold on to excess weight. It will look at the various emotional reasons why we hang on to that weight – protection, comfort and so on – and I will talk about the role of past life traumas and even the possibility of a sweet-toothed or downright greedy spirit “passenger” too!

Follow the link for full details.

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FACTS & FIGURES ABOUT FIGHTING THE FAT, OFFICIAL-STYLE

There has been much noise in the media recently as the Government considers providing bariatric surgery (gastric by-pass and gastric band operations) to people with Type 2 Diabetes. Let’s look at some of the facts and figures, shall we? First, definitions. Body Mass Index is defined as weight divided by height squared, or kg / m2. Originally devised by a Belgian mathematician almost 200 years ago  as a social study into average body build, it has come to be adopted as the medical industry norm. The scale has changed over time, the current settings being as follows: Below 18.5             possibly underweight 18.5 – 24.9             healthy 25.0 – 29.9            overweight 30.0 – 34.9           obese 35.0 – 39.9           very obese 40.0 and over     morbidly obese While I feel there should be a better way of measuring obesity (see my separate post on BMI), there is no escaping the fact that far too many people today are seriously overweight and this is impacting their health in many ways. The National Institute of Health and Care Excellence tells us that –

  • 25% of adults in England are obese (ie have a BMI of 30 or more) – that’s 1 in every 4 adults.
  • A BMI of 30 – 35 (obese) cuts life expectancy by up to four years.
  • A BMI of 40 or more (morbidly obese) cuts life expectancy by up to ten years.
  • Obesity costs the NHS some £5.1 billion every year.

The people at NICE say that very low-calorie diets (less than 800 calories a day) can be used in the short term to prepare people for surgery or to meet criteria for fertility treatment, but admits that while diets are increasingly popular, they do not keep weight off in the long term.  NICE guidance states that “regaining weight is likely” but that this is not down to the failure of either the client or the clinician. We have reached the stage where around 8,000 people a year are currently receiving bariatric surgery on the NHS – let’s have a look at a few other facts & figures about that too. One person in 200 who has a gastric band fitted will die as a result of the operation. If you think that’s bad, the figure for death following gastric by-pass is just one person in 100. Such operations can result in dramatic weight reduction – often up to 1/3 or even 1/2 of body weight prior to surgery – and this can create another problem in the (not very attractive) shape of folds of excess flabby skin that often needs further surgery to remove it. I work a lot with people who are would be defined as overweight or various stages of obese. Rather than berating them for eating too much or not doing enough exercise, I work from the inside out, focusing instead on the underlying emotional reasons why they are holding onto excess weight. This can be traced back to any number of reasons – abuse or bullying as a child; rejection or pain in a relationship; a past life when the client starved to death; or even a spirit “passenger” with a sweet tooth. If, having resolved these issues, the client still feels that he or she needs “belt and braces” reassurance, then I will “fit” a hypnotic gastric band. The procedure is totally non-invasive, and does not carry any of the risks of actual surgery. And of course it means that, having dealt with the real root causes, the client can move on with his or her life, whereas with conventional surgery, if those underlying reasons have not been dealt with, the operation “won’t work”; the client will find ways around. It is also far less expensive. The NHS puts the cost of bariatric surgery at anywhere between £3,000 and £5,000. A private hospital close to me is currently charging £6,145 for a gastric band operation. I charge £395.00 – yes, that is just under £400. Just think how much that could save the NHS! My number is 07597 020 512 – feel free to call me if you would like to know more.

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