FREEDOM FROM FEARS AND PHOBIAS

How fears and phobias hold us back Mary was delighted to become a grandmother for the first time. But her new grandson was in Hong Kong and her fear of flying made it impossible for her to go and visit him. Sally’s daughter was terrified of dogs. Her walk to school was a nightmare, and playing in the park was out of the question. Dave loved driving but would have to check every route because he couldn’t bear to drive over bridges. It added miles to each journey, wasted valuable time and cost extra in fuel. Mary sent me an email with a photo of her holding her grandson in Hong Kong. Sally’s daughter no longer dreads the walk to school. Dave has discovered many scenic new routes since he overcame his fear of bridges. If you know someone who is being held back in their personal or professional life by a fear or a phobia (one is just a more severe version of the other), why not reassure them that help is at hand? I am based in Haywards Heath, West Sussex and I work from Vinings Natural Health Centre, also in Haywards Heath. I’m always happy to have a chat about the issues that are stopping people reaching their full potential. Feel free to give me a call on 07597 020 512 or email me on: judy@effective-hypnotherapy.co.uk....

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Written testimonials

Sometimes clients will write me a letter – or, more commonly nowadays, send me an email – to let me know what changes have come about in their lives as a result of their sessions with me. It is always a pleasure to receive such feedback. A handful are reproduced here, to give a flavour of the wide range of issues that have been resolved. Names have been  removed to maintain client confidentiality. First, a selection of “one-liners” and then a few slightly longer explanations. “I’m more present, more awake.” “I left (the session) not knowing up or down …. There was lots of processing, and now I am lighter, happier and more joyful.” “I haven’t felt this good in my life.       I’ve turned the corner.” “The work you’ve done so far has been an enormous help, thank you very much!” “It’s easier for me to accept who I am. I’m happy with who I am, and I’m easier to get on with.”   “I really enjoyed the session, and did indeed feel the benefit of it. With regards my back, it felt very much improved straight away as you know, with a feeling of freeness that I had not experienced for years. ….. Also re the food issue, that seems to be improving too. Initially there didn’t seem to be any difference in the way I felt about food, but maybe a week or so later, it was like a switch had been flicked in my head, and I just felt all of a sudden that I ‘didn’t need to be fat anymore’ ….. It would be lovely for this to be something that I can leave behind in the past. Or perhaps more usefully, something that can be consigned to the mental rubbish bin as it is something that is now no longer required in my life.” “I’m calmer, more relaxed. I’m able to let go, I’m finding it easier to make decisions. My back is feeling much better. I have had problems with my right wrist for years, it is now loosening up and becoming more flexible.”   “Food portion sizes are now smaller, I’m feeling fuller sooner. I’ve definitely got more energy, and I’m doing more. I’m sleeping well at night. I’ve moved on from guilt and anger. “I’m good enough for myself.”     “I just wanted to drop you an email to let you know how successful my sessions were. I don’t think I will ever enjoy flying but at least I am able to fly. It was so nice to visit my son (and new grandchild) and this was made possible because of your help.”   “It’s been several weeks since I...

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When a client in a past life is dumb and blind . . .

Working with past lives . . . it makes for an interesting session! This happened recently with a client with whom I had been working on a number of issues. The client – who is able to talk and see normally in this lifetime – slid beautifully into a lovely deep state of relaxation, and I guided her to the door that would lead to the most relevant past life. So far, so good. She went through the door, closing it gently behind her – and then the challenge began. I asked her what she was wearing: silence. I asked if she was indoors or outdoors: silence. I asked if she was alone: silence. Usually when a client is in a past life, he or she is able to talk, and all of the senses are fully engaged, so they can touch, smell, see and hear what is going on around them, and tell me all about it. This time there was clearly an issue. I asked the client to indicate by blinking if she could hear me – blink. I asked if, in that lifetime, she was dumb – big blink. Now it became a game of 20 questions with complications. As the therapist – the “question master” – my questions have to be totally open, and not lead or influence the client in any way. But here, the questions also had to be phrased in such a way that the answer was a simple yes or no, indicated by a blink. Slowly, patiently – and with considerable guidance from my helpers I have to say – the picture emerged. Here was a woman in her 60s, a princess who was unable to speak (and, we understood later, was unable to see either). Her father the king had recently conquered neighbouring land and, as a means of “legitimising” his land grab, married his spinster daughter to the young king whose lands had been taken. The day after the wedding, the young king killed his bride by hanging her with a noose and stabbing her with a large knife. Not a happy ending to what must have been a tough life back in the 1300s. However, the princess had found some joy with horses, with whom she clearly had a special affinity. She had had a child by the man who looked after the horses, a daughter who saw her mother being killed in such a brutal way. The story resonated at so many levels: the affinity with horses has been carried forward to this lifetime: the mother / daughter relationship has been reversed; and much more. When the client came back from her experience – and was once more able to talk –...

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You can lead a horse to water ….

Sometimes – occasionally – I see a client who wants to find a “cure” but is not willing to face the issues, to follow that piece of string all the way and get the real root cause out of his / her system. While I completely respect the wishes of any client who reaches a line, looks beyond and does not feel able to go on, I find it professionally frustrating as I feel sure the outcome would be highly beneficial. As I have often said, “you’ve got to get it out of your system, because if it is not out of your system it is in your system, and it will manifest as a physical condition of some kind at some time.” And that applies whatever the “it” may be. With a recent client, the underlying issue was something that happened decades before, and the client did not feel able to forgive herself, even now. She had so effectively locked down her emotions that she was not going to release them for anything – not even to relieve the nagging symptoms that had brought her to me in the first place! We found a compromise solution, a half-way house that – to me – was what I call a “sticking plaster” rather than cleansing the wound and allowing it to heal. But sometimes, the best a therapist can do is to lead a horse to the cool, refreshing water and invite it to drink...

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Whatever the root cause of your phobia …

.. we’ll find it and set you free FEARS AND PHOBIAS COME IN ALL SHAPES AND SIZES – and hypnotherapy can cut them all down to size! We are all afraid of certain things and, in most cases, there are perfectly understandable reasons for those fears. A child who almost drowned when a big wave knocked her over the first time she went into the sea will probably not be very keen to repeat that experience, and that reluctance can develop into a fear of the sea or a more general fear of water. Ditto a child bitten by a dog. A phobia is more extreme: it is an irrational or out-of-proportion fear of something. Some phobias can completely take over the life of the sufferer – an agoraphobic, for instance, feels huge anxiety about being in places or situations from which there is no escape, often translated into a fear of open or public places. This can lead people to live their lives unable to leave the security of their own homes. I have just been re-reading Roger Woolger’s fabulous book “Other Lives, Other Selves” in which he talks about how common it is for all kinds of fears and phobias to be traced back to previous lifetimes. The same applies to behavioural traits and obsessions – very often the person is repeating patterns set in previous lives, be it addictions, abusive relationships or unhealthy eating habits. The term “regression” simply means “going back” and it may be that the root cause of a particular issue can be found in very early childhood or indeed in the womb: this is especially common if an unborn baby / very young child picks up on the fact that they are not wanted, or perhaps they are a girl instead of a boy, or they are not perfect. In many cases, however, tracing the root cause of the fear or phobia may lead us into a past life – or more than one. This should not be a cause for concern – the whole process is totally safe and secure, and leads to insights that help the client to understand the situation and resolve the outstanding issues. related content:  fears and...

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